So about to get tested to see if I have inherited the faulty gene from DM - the one that massively increases the chance of ovarian cancer. I'm wanting opinions on how to handle this if I turn out to be +ve .
I have 4 DDs aged 10-20, they don't know I had a aunt die young of cancer and we're fairly estranged from my parents, they're elderly so I don't think it's occurred to any of them about the possibility of a hereditary factor...
Eldest is a drama lama so if I tell her then it will be public knowledge but the age gap is large. Telling a 20 year old she has a 50/50 chance of having the gene is bad enough but what about a 10/12/14 year old - how/when can I tell them
I feel if I tell them their innocence of believing they will have future health and children is over, they will have decisions to make. If I don't tell them they can't look for early signs that could potentially save their lives.
Of course I could be positive and all of them negative, but it's unlikely isn't it - if some are -ve and some +ve how do they deal with the "unfairness" of it all.
It's a really shit hobsons choice, damned if I do, damned if I don't. Desperate to be -ve for their sakes
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BRCA Gene positive - Telling DC - WWYD
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ChangedMyMind · 13/10/2016 21:05
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