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'phenomenally inflamed cervix'(15 Posts)
Sorry you are going through this.
I'm confused- was the 4 minute appt with your GP discussing your results, or was it with the gynae who did the investigation?
If it was a private gynae then that's disgraceful- he will be invoicing for 30 mins or an hour, not 4 minutes!
I don't know all the ins and outs of HPV. It's a virus but I didn't know there was a time limit for it to clear. I thought it stayed in the body for ever but only became 'activated' if conditions were right- ie weak immune system, smoking, poor diet etc. By activated I mean capable of causing cellular changes. Google and find out?
You can get HPV from fingers, any part of the genitals or the mouth. If your DP has HPV presumably he could re infect you?
There are loads of questions that you could ask a dr- about the biopsy etc. I'd assume he would know whether it is necessary to biopsy a large area, or if taking 1 biopsy is adequate - clearly they aren't going to take loads and without being a gynae I don't know if different areas of the cervix would show different results. if he is going to laser it then it may be he thinks it's immaterial whether he takes another smear or not, because he will laser it all and that would be the treatment regardless. But these are things to ask the drs!
I don't know if you have the option but I'd see another consultant either privately for a 2nd opinion if the insurance will cover (they might) or take up your NHS appt. I'd def not just leave it.
Here you are - Q&As about HP.
see Q2 from 'Christy' about it lying dormant indefinitely unless activated.
Have you thought about reporting this to your insurance company if you also ask if they could cover the cost of a 2nd private opinion? Consultants have to be 'okay-ed' to be on the list of drs that insurers would pay out to. If you had a really poor consultation could you find another consultant who is more friendly and experienced in HPV?
Looking at the link I posted, it seems to say that HPV can stay dormant for years , coming and going with symptoms when it's activated. I'm sure there are questions about that there- can't remember but check!
This is why women have smears every 3 years - even if they have had no new partners. If smears were only for women who were not in a monogamous relationship for life, a huge group of women would not need smears every 3 years. Older women who can stop having smears at 60-65 ish if they have always been negative, are advised to continue with them if they have new partners age 65+.
So if you have the laser treatment you will be in the same situation as most women who are sexually active- needing regular smears.
HPV may cause bleeding if you have an inflamed cervix, but it ought not to give heavy irregular bleeding like a period. That sounds more like hormones if it's what you have had.
Your options...seek another opinion, privately or NHS. Given the attitude of the private gynae, I'd not go back - but if you do, I'd say' Hang on a minute...there are several things I'd like to ask you..' !
I'm sorry- this is clearly an emotional situation for you dealing with the medical stuff but also the emotional side re. your partner's possible dalliances. Looking purely at the medical side, have the treatment and try to accept there is an unknown element, but then keep on top of it all with smears etc. You could have the original virus reoccurring, you could have a new infection - unless your DP tells you the truth, you won't ever know. But you need to have a conversation with him so he knows that he could well be responsible for this IF he has 'played away'.
I hope you get on ok
I would not be happy with your private consultant at all - 20 minutes initial appointment and tests, then 4 minute follow up? thats awful. As previous posters have said, he will be charging for at least half an hour, plus probably more for tests and procedures.
Did you have to pay an excess too? My PMI (from various employers over the years) always had an excess to pay - which would make more even more annoyed. I would worry about him doing the procedure personally - doesn't sound like he has a great bedside manner for fanjo rummaging which would annoy me.
I would not go back, it sounds like its only a few weeks until the NHS system will catch you anyway. Personally I would either change private consultant (chat with insurers see if they will support it) or go NHS.
FWIW it sounds like the problem - and HPV - can flare up/be a number of things so panicking about husbands possible affair seems a bit of a jump. If you think he is having an affair now, then if you really really want to know get an investigator on him. Otherwise, or if you don't want to know, let this go and concentrate on getting better (and mending any marital issues, if you want to). Or in true mumsnet style LTB, obviously.
Call the hospital, get his email address or his private secretary and email him your questions...
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