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Fed up with relentless back pain. Tlc needed.

(15 Posts)
PavlovtheCat Sat 02-Jul-16 13:14:37

Just want to moan. Not had a good mn moans for too long.

I have long term lower back issues. Pain is constant. Sone days easier to get on with it further back in my mind than others. But always, always there. Most days I keep going. Don't give up. Stay strong. Stay positive. All the things I am enoueaged to do. But, taking ages to get anywhere is driving me mad. I have to plan bathroom trips when out and about, as it takes so long, and if I'm not busting, I can't bear the potential hauling myself to it. I avoid shops as I just can't walk the walk. I push my limits for my children and my sanity, but actually almost broke myself completely at the weekend doing do.

There's no real end in sight. And the lack of clear future, dragging myself through the day till bedtime, knowing there's no planned improvement. It might, or might not get better, or more likely, worse, in time. Feels like I'm just waiting, wasting my life.

And, just so sick of hurting from my back to my toes, often my neck and arms from extended impact on upper body muscles.

Just needed a vent really.

PavlovtheCat Sat 02-Jul-16 13:16:42

And I can't find the old back pain thread gang, anyone know where they are? 🙂

notapizzaeater Sat 02-Jul-16 13:17:05

DH has arthritis in his lower spine and can't take normal meds (25% kidney function). A new tens machine has helped but he still can't do "normal" things without lots of downtime to recover.

Have you looked at Actipatch ? This did help for a time.

TheFairyCaravan Sat 02-Jul-16 13:20:08

Oh Pavlov flowers I completely understand.

I'm in the same boat with back and pelvic problems. I'm so sick of hurting. So sick of not being able to plan anything. It's just shit.

Chronic pain is relentless. It's so, so hard. (((hugs)))

PavlovtheCat Sat 02-Jul-16 18:36:20

Thanks guys. Feeling really low today. Irritable. Frustrated. Not helped by an unhelpful letter from the pain clinic telling me what I dint have, and what I don't need to happen next, rather than what the fuck they can actually do for me as a pain management service, which is their bloody job.

Sorry to hear about your own pain fairy and your DH thepizzareater

PavlovtheCat Sat 02-Jul-16 18:36:51

Sorry nota got your name wrong 🙀

AbbieLexie Sat 02-Jul-16 19:31:06

Can only say I've been there and still visit - you have my sympathy. I'm sorry I don't have anything helpful to give you but I can listen and empathise.

PavlovtheCat Sun 03-Jul-16 11:25:45

thanks for the suggestion of Actipatch notapizzaeater I will give that a try, happy to try anything, especially non-medicated stuff, have enough pressure to load myself to the eyeballs with zombifying meds. Doing my best to resist, go through phases of upping my doses to the max, then chucking my toys out of the pram, and reducing them right down. Currently in that phase now, and it's not helping my mood either !

whattodoforthebest2 Sun 03-Jul-16 12:11:23

Hi Pavlov, I really feel for you, I know how awful it is when back pain strikes, I've spent days and weeks in the past in awful pain, trying not to move and feeling unable to help myself.

More recently I've found that gentle exercise has helped. While it feels like it's the last thing you want to do, actually getting your legs, pelvis etc moving seems to slowly make things better. I found that dosing up on Ibuprofen and then going out for a walk made me feel better, both physically and psychologically. At the same time, I tried very, VERY gentle pilates exercises lying on a mat on the carpet, which slowly helped my back to improve. There were times when I wasn't sure how to get up off the floor, but slowly it got better. Take it at your own pace, no rushing, wear comfortable shoes and gradually try and build up the length of your walk. Could that be worth a try?

braxit Sun 03-Jul-16 12:14:10

Have a look into anti gravity yoga flowers

MatildaTheCat Sun 03-Jul-16 12:41:36

flowers Sorry it's so shit for you. Will dig up the back thread. I could do with a good old grumble.

Try to do one thing for you today?x

PavlovtheCat Sun 03-Jul-16 15:58:36

Matilda hey lovely. I'm now laying down, having been out at a BBQ since midday. DH is treating grouchy at my need to slow down, and it's not helping me much! I may have a bath, but again, as much as I like bath and shower for the pain, it's such an effort to do anything, I just don't want to do anything. Or, I want to do it, but as it hurts, I avoid it.

whattodo I keep moving. As much as I can. I just don't want to! I rarely lay down for ages. But right now it's all I want to do. Everything hurts, all the time. I have been camping for a weekend, and it pretty much broke me. It was a particularly hardcore camp, in that it involved walking around an adventure park for a lot of it and I really could do with stopping for a bit.

PavlovtheCat Sun 03-Jul-16 15:58:59

braxit oh that sounds interesting, I'm off to look now!

PavlovtheCat Sun 03-Jul-16 16:03:45

oh wow that looks lovely braxit ! Nothing in my area though. Of course there isn't. Nothing comes down this far!

Wolfiefan Sun 03-Jul-16 16:09:16

Pavlov I have suffered with my back. (Arthritis and slipped discs.) it is totally bloody miserable. Whilst I never wanted to kill my self, I would have days when not existing vs the pain would have been a close call.
Really hope you find your answer. Mine has been gym and walking and injections in spine. Amazing. Losing the nerve pain has been amazing!

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