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My poor beleaguered bumhole

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JimJamJem Sun 29-May-16 10:06:15

I've posted before and I'm just so weary of it.

DS2 is 5mo. Problems with piles/constipation in both pregnancies. Rectocele prolapse after most recent delivery that seems to have improved with physio/diet management.

And then 3 weeks or so ago a whole week of rectal bleeding that stopped.

Now piles back with a vengeance. Haven't been constipated but am now (mainly because of the fear of the pain of a BM). Am in tears and feel sick from pain. Have taken paracetamol and put cream on.

I'm sooo tired of this. Will I ever be better? Will I ever have control of my bowels again. I'm feeling so sorry for myself. I'm finding it really hard to look after the DCs because standing up and sitting down again is so painful. Just when I think it gets better I seem to have another set back. Tell me it's not the end of the world it's just piles and they'll go eventually, I know, it's just so disheartening - I was away last week and basically the change in routine (not being able to go to loo when I want with my stool to put my feet on etc. Skipping my all bran one day) has ruined me to this extent that I'm crying. I can't even talk to DP because poor guy must be so tired of hearing about my wrecked bum, we haven't DTD since DS2 was born.

Sorry so long but I'm so sad.

confusedandemployed Sun 29-May-16 10:10:12

Your thread title made me giggle, but that sounds absolutely horrible flowers

I've never had bottom problems so i have no advice, but you do have my heartfelt sympathy.

cherrytree63 Sun 29-May-16 10:15:50

I'm just chipping in with some sympathy for you OP. I have diverticular disease and constipation causes bad flare ups.
I've managed my symptoms with routine, exercise and diet, but unless I've got diarrhoea I can only go on my upstairs loo ( the downstairs one is too high).
I gave up sugar last year and the resulting constipation was awful and tearing just caused me so much fear. I was "pulling" my stools back in as they hurt so much.
Plenty of prunes, ground linseed and water does it for me. In the initial stages I had to use the occasional suppository.
Hope you get some relief soon!

Imnotaslimjim Sun 29-May-16 10:26:42

You have my every sympathy, I had a fissure for 6 months that has only been healed for 4 weeks. The pain and fear that a BM urge brings is so horrible

If you're not under the care of your GP for this yet, please go. I know its embarrassing but I promise they'll have seen it all before. They can advise you on next steps etc. But for now, get yourself some stool softener. You can buy it over the counter, speak to the chemist and they'll advise the best one. Having soft stools is key to healing as you don't strain. Also, try a sitz bath with rock salt or epsom salt. Use it 3-4 times a day, especially after a BM as it relaxes the sphincter which will aid healing.

JimJamJem Sun 29-May-16 10:32:17

Thanks for the sympathy. That's just what I needed. It's not exactly one you can go moaning to your RL mates about.

I will go to GP slimjim - I saw them about prolapse 3 month ago but not this really. And thanks for the tips. I've got movicol and fibrogel which do the trick but try not to take them all the time. Think I need to learn when I need pre-emptive course.

And glad to know it's not just me that can only go on certain loos. cherry. Sorry to hear it's happened to you too. flowers

peppermum Sun 29-May-16 10:40:45

I am so sorry to hear what you're going through.
I had a fissure after delivery of DS and it was agony. I ended up having surgery when he was 6 weeks old to repair it. It was difficult as I was breastfeeding but so much better afterwards. Like you I couldn't enjoy my life - it all revolved around the pain!
Go to the GP and get yourself referred to a surgeon, and get some better medication for the current problems. They can give you better topical stuff than you can get over the counter. You don't have to put up with it

Minime85 Sun 29-May-16 14:33:03

Definitely can offer sympathy. Sounds horrid OP. I would too go to gp and keep going back until you get referred. It is horrible being examined and painful I know but I had to keep going back about 6 times and in end got refered and had an op for removal of a very large skin tag down there.

I had some liquid lactolose or something to help make stools softer that did help flowers

MC1R Sun 29-May-16 19:10:10

Bless you - am a life-long sufferer of constipation so I really can sympathise!

I can highly recommend magnesium supplements - 1000mg a day helps me enormously - Lidl are doing them at the moment for £2.99 for 250. If things do grind to a halt entirely, as it were, lactulose sorts me right out.

Both magnesium and lactulose are osmotics, ie; they encourage water to remain in the stools, so make sure you keep your hydration up. Also magnesium helps relieve muscles cramps - handy, as the bowel is one big tube of muscles!

Hope you feel better soon...

JimJamJem Sun 29-May-16 21:01:28

Thanks for the sympathy, encouragement and advice. I had friends over this afternoon and gritted my teeth but couldn't wait for them to leave so I could flop on the sofa and cry about my bum. They must think I'm so rude!

I'm in a state this eve. Poor DP had to drive to garage for more painkillers. I know it can only get better and when I've been to loo in morning I'll get some real relief, but right now I'm in so much pain. Trying not to curse the tiny baby who did the damagr!

JimJamJem Tue 31-May-16 11:56:51

Got in to see GP as soon as poss after bank hol and have had a cream upgrade and some lovely suppositories. Also referral to bum doc. Although am moving half way across country in a couple of weeks so may sit on that (haha, if only I could) and get re-referred after move.

Thanks for making me go to docs. I was sooo embarrassed but is better.

fishybits Tue 31-May-16 12:00:16

I was going to say suppositories, suppositories, suppositories and put them in the fridge. I can't tell you the relief blush

llhj Tue 31-May-16 12:01:17

God love you. Truly bum issues are the worst, there's not a minute's respite.
You know this but you must keep your stools soft otherwise it's the most appalling of vicious circles.

Needmoresleep Tue 31-May-16 13:37:28


Michelle Kenway is the person to look for if you have post natal pelvic floor problems.

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