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I hate my breasts

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ProfessorPickles Sun 20-Mar-16 22:52:10

I've always disliked my breasts. The breasts themselves used to be ok, but my nipples have always been puffy but will go erect when cold. When erect one nipple looks half formed.

I'm struggling to describe them!

Since having my son they have sagged but are looking more tubular which seems to be linked to the puffy nipples.

I don't know much about all of it despite trying to read up online, I feel a bit frustrated about it all really.
I feel like it would be good to show someone at the doctors probably a GP not someone in the waiting room but the one doctor I really trusted left last year and I feel scared at the thought of showing anyone else.

I have never taken my bra off infront of partners, only if it is pitch black. I hate taking my bra off infront of myself and prefer to keep my bra on as it's easier to forget about them.

Not sure what the point of this thread is, just feeling a bit down that I'm stuck with them for the foreseeable. It makes me feel unattractive and I feel jealous of women who are happy to sunbathe topless for example or just be naked infront of their partners.

It makes me feel a bit reluctant to get close to anyone because I know I'll have to have the conversation about how I don't want to take my bra off but don't really want to say why I don't want to.

Normal breasts would be amazing

PacificDogwod Sun 20-Mar-16 22:57:30

Here's a whole host of normal breasts - not porn, honest!

See if you 'recognise' your breasts.
The variety in shape, size and colour of breasts is huge and there is every likelihood that yours are perfectly normal.
Please let a doctor have a look at them - would a female dr be easier for you?

If you meet certain criteria (which vary from area to area hmm) you may qualify for plastic surgery on the NHS - the waiting lists are long and breast surgery is major surgery, so should not be embarked on lightly.

The other thing is that sex-appeal has v little to do with appearances, it's all about confidence and loving yourself, in a good way. Could you work on that?

ProfessorPickles Sun 20-Mar-16 23:20:57

Thank you for that link, it's quite nice to see normal breasts and actually I did see some kind of like mine which makes me a little feel better.

I feel I have a strange relationship with my breasts, I think it's partly because breasts are seen as such a sexual thing. My body isn't good but I can accept it and I have no issues looking at or touching the rest of my body but to even place my hand on breast makes me cringe and feel uncomfortable.

At the minute I feel like I will never learn to accept them which is a shame. I dislike my large stomach but I kind of accept it as mine and I can touch it and look at it but my breasts make me feel so ashamed and like I'm not myself.

I'm terrified of showing anyone, I hate to sound dramatic but the feeling I get is 'unnatural'. They just feel wrong and I get so anxious at the thought of showing someone. Yet other ugly parts I feel anxious but I know I could show someone, where my breasts I feel like I couldn't make myself take my bra off.

It's like I know I'm being ridiculous because it's just a body, but equally it feels like the end of the world also at times.

Thank you for your message thanks

PacificDogwod Sun 20-Mar-16 23:31:19

It's not ridiculous. At all.

Even if you feel you cannot show anybody your breast, could you speak about how strongly you feel about them? Or, as is so often suggested on here, show a dr what you have written on here?

A good psychologist may well be able to help you clarify in your own mind why you feel so strongly about your breasts and not about other parts of your body.

And yes, I don't think we see 'normal' breast enough - only air-brushed, surgically enhances, weird ideal globes that defy gravity hmm
Glad that site helped a bit.

ProfessorPickles Mon 21-Mar-16 16:09:31

I've decided today that I definitely need to see someone, I've just had a shower and I'm disgusted at what I saw. They really don't look like breasts at all they just look deformed!

I really want to post a picture but I am afraid I have outed myself on previous threads and someone I know will see. If I could show someone anonymously I feel I could make myself do it cause it removes the shame, but someone I know seeing or a doctor seeing makes me feel sick.

I don't know what to do but I need to do something, talking to my GP will be the best start, I don't HAVE to show anyone. And who knows they might be able to encourage me and make me feel comfortable enough to show them in future

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