found myself smoking again...

[naswm]

I've never been a smoker, as such. More of a 'social' smoker. But not for about 10 years now. Until the past few months that is. Now I seem to be smoking in the evenings - usually after a glass or 2 of wine. But recently have found myself craving one during the day too. I know this isnt good. But like the effect, IYKWM. And it seems to reduce my appetite too - which is a good thing in my case

[lukenjoesmummy]

It's a slippery slope isn't it? I gave up smoking for 3 years but started again about a year ago, simply because I met my df and he smokes. I started just having a few with him in the evenings, then it progressed to sneaking into the garden during the day for a crafty one and now I'm hooked again.

The only thing I have stuck to is that I don't smoke near the children

I would like to give up again but in all honesty I do enjoy it and after a stressful day it does chill me out.

Sorry not much help but at least your not alone!!

[naswm]

thanks lukenjoesmummy. I am the same as you - I have NEVER smoked in front of the dc. And never will. In fact I usually only do it when I am on my own anyway nowadays. And my h doesnt even know...

The thing is, I know I should stop - but like other things, I dont seem to want to. Let alone be able to. If that makes sense.

[ScummyMummy]

Nip in bud before too late my girl [stern]

[expatinscotland]

Cut the wine out. Don't buy it anymore.

Drink tea every time you crave.

[lukenjoesmummy]

It's so easy for non smokers to say just stop but unless you really want to for yourself it just won't work.

I hate myself for smoking, I feel ashamed that I do it and know it's not good for me but at the end of the day I'm under so much stress that I know haven't got the willpower to stop at the moment.

Having said that I did give up for 3 years so I know I can do it so maybe I need to wait till I really do want to.

[naswm]

Not sure if I came on here for sympathy or to be nagged - but the nagging hurts, so I guess that means that deep down I do want to stop

[expatinscotland]

It's easy to slide back into.

My trigger is always wine.

So whenever I find I've been out and had a smoke, I deliberately don't drink alcohol for at least a week after.

[ScummyMummy]

lukenjoesmummy- do agree. Would never say that to a hardened smoker as know that would have never worked for me in my smoking days. It's just that naswm seems to be flirting with smoking and in danger of becoming a smoker proper for the first time. So if there's still time to just say no without having to address major physical and psychological addiction issues it might be a good plan?

[naswm]

I couldnt do that expat - but pleased you can

[expatinscotland]

I used to smoke at least a pack every day.

I agree w/the poster who said that if you want to stop, you have to really, really want to quit.

[naswm]

I wouldnt say I was flirting scrummy - I am not a teenager! I did the flirting 20 odd years ago. This is more of a way of getting through the day and coping

Actually not really sure why I started this thread now. I guess it probably was more for sympathy than to be nagged. Bit late for that now tho I guess

[ScummyMummy]

sorry then. Wasn't aiming to nag. Do what you want.

[naswm]

that doesnt mean I have disregarded your comments scrummy. Definitely not. In fact atm I dont know what sort of 'advice' I want. Or more to the point, need.......

[mistypeaks]

Maybe it would be helpful to do a 'lets quit together' thing. I'm in the same boat as you. Quite apart from anything else being a SAHM means I really can't be spending money on the damn things!! Maybe the support would be helpful. Maybe even posting on here before nipping out for a fag would help to not go and have one.

[poppiesinaline]

sorry to hear that naswm. Never smoked so cant offer any helpful suggestions - sorry. But Ill nag you if that helps

stop smoking stop smoking stop smoking....

[naswm]

not sure nagging does help. Not at the moment anyway. And thanks for the sympathy dinosaur! I'm sure you are only being cruel to be kind. (Completely forogt about those stickers btw. Seeing you on here reminded me. I have LOADS for you. Email me your address and I'll get them in the post.)

[naswm]

Cant believe you have completed the book already - you only started it a couple of weeks ago didnt you?! my DS still has tons to go. All we seem to get is doubles...

[naswm]

sorry dinosaur, got you confused with tortoise re the stickers. We are collecting CARS ones. Think maybe I do need a cigarette after all........ PS I have listened to your advice btw. I WILL try harder. Thanks for taking the time to post. Nx

[ecb]

going on holidays in a few weeks and i won't be able to smoke as will be with the chldren 24/7. hoping i won't be tempted when i come home or worse still sneak off for a sneaky one on hols.