my older brother has told us all this week that he has been diagnosed with Hodgkin lymphoma. my family are in bits - very upset.
Sounding callous but I am not. the reason - i am not sure i believe him.
He has a history of exageration, fabrication and lying to us all. From more minor things like having been robbed, involved in car accidents to more major things like having a child, being kidnapped whilst in another country or receiving personal phone-calls from Lana Del Ray. It has reached the stage where i am about nearly everything that comes out of his mouth. He is soooooo easy to catch out on lies and doesnt even realise that he has been at times. He forgets what he has said and when challenged about it -he denies all knowledge or will make it a whole new set of lies to cover that up.
With his latest news - he said that he found a lump in his neck last thursday. went to see his GP on Friday who spent most of her day with him and collected him late on Sunday night to get him admitted to a private clinic (for free) where he had an operation at 10.30pm with the results back at 9am Monday morning to say it was cancer. His GP waited with all night while he was in the operating theatre and drove him home before collecting him at lunch time that day to meet his oncologist and radiologist. She has apparently spent most nights with him ever since and has given him alot of attention to come to terms with this diagnosis. He is starting radiotherapy and chemotherapy tomorrow.
He told my parents on wednesday. They dont know what to believe but think he simply couldnt lie about something as major as this. They wont challenge him on their doubts as he has a history of stopping speaking to people - he once refused to speak to them for over a year when they caught him out on a lie about borrowing money. He also has a history of being violent and has smashed my mums kitchen up a couple of times.
I can understand to a certain degree why they wont challenge him but I am not really willing to go along with what may well be another lie. I have asked him if i can have the name of his GP to say a thank you card as i think her level of personal care and attention in this day and age is almost unbelievably good. He has refused. He doesnt know the name of the clinic he was in last sunday as his GP sorted it all out and it was dark when he was admitted.
I think the whole time frame is strange. i am confused as to how rapid this all has been and there seems to be huge holes in his story. i appreciate that may be because he has just received shocking news but after everything that has happened in the past - I just dont know....
Am i being callous and harsh?
Do you think i should go along with this and give him the benefit of my doubts?
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weeonion · 26/06/2014 22:52
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