stress

[spongebobmum]

I suffer with stress and when I get an "episode" I worry and stress over every little thing. I get short tempered, angry and unreasonable about things. It's like I just have no control over it, I can't relax in any way, it's like I don't know how.
It's not fair on dp or the dcs, and it's so hard and draining on me.
How do you manage it, has anyone any tips or remedies that might help?
Been on ads before but it's not at that stage and if I can learn to manage the episodes where it's worse I think it will help, just daunting to know what to do or where to start.
Thanks for reading this far, I'd be grateful for any suggestions

[Matildathecat]

This is really good. Lots of apps you can get, too.

www.amazon.co.uk/Mindfulness-practical-guide-finding-frantic/dp/074995308X/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1394542590&sr=1-1&keywords=mindfulness&tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21

[kazza446]

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[kazza446]

Phone is playing silly buggers! Just wanted to say that I have no tips but I can empathise greatly with you as I suffer the same.
Yesterday I was suicidal, worrying about everything and anything. Just wanted my life to end yesterday and put me out of my misery. Today I seem much more upbeat and positive. My gp has suggested cbt counseling, have you tried it? Xx

[kazza446]

I read some great words of advice on here from someone saying "don't let your anxiety rule your life." I'm tryin my hardest to follow this. I really don't want it to beat me. Sometimes just having someone's to talk toin real life helps. Is there anyone you can confide in? My friends gave me a good pep talk this morningxx

[spongebobmum]

Thanks for the replies, Matilda I'll have a look at the link now. Kazza yes I've had cbt, I found it really good and I'm usually a lot better than I used to be because of it, but lately I've started to feel the old stressed feelings coming back. I'm thinking of trying kalms, to get me out of this rut.
I don't have anyone really to talk to, hoping mn can be an alternative!

[gamerchick]

Beta blockers.. as and when needed. They're the dogs bollocks.

[kazza446]

Ah well we can share our crap on here spongebob I hate it, how it can consume all your energy. gamerchick how do beta blockers help? X

[spongebobmum]

Gamer what are beta blockers, are they like ads or what? I've heard of them but don't know anything about them at all.
Yep kazza, venting a bit is probably good! It takes so much energy doesn't it, and it's so hard when the smallest thing seems so big and so disastrous... I fly off the handle the last couple of days at the slightest thing. I'm going to get kalms, looked up reviews and they seem to be good - worth a try anyway

[spongebobmum]

Matilda I had a look at that link, it sounds really good thanks, going to order it and give it a go

[Superworm]

Meditation helps me. Not a quick fix but has given me a really useful coping strategy to use day to day.

CBT has also helped along with knowing my limits more and cutting out toxic people.

[gamerchick]

Beta blockers stop the physical feeling that goes with anxiety. That horrible feeling in the pit of your stomach.. The feeling that you're shaking..It stops the effect of the adrenaline so you can cope better.

It doesn't stop what's going on in your head but with that overwhelming physical feeling gone life is easier.

No they aren't ads.. you only take them when you need them.

[gamerchick]

You can't take them if you're diabetic though.

[spongebobmum]

Thanks gamer, good to know another option.
Superworm the book in the link above sounds like there's a meditation element to it, which I'm going to try.
I'd love to kick these feelings to the kerb and I'm going to make as much effort as I can, I'm so tired of being like this now