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Risk reducing double mastectomy ... Feeling totally disheartened ...

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Teardropsonthedancefloor Wed 01-May-13 12:03:47

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Teardropsonthedancefloor Sat 04-May-13 07:05:00

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Ledkr Sat 04-May-13 07:55:29

If I'm honest I'd say the section is easier but they are very close tbh.
Obviously movement is the sore thing but I don't remember being in agony. I was sick from the morphine which was worse than the pain and it took days to go off so my focus was on that really.
I had four sections my first 26 yrs ago .and my last two years ago.
I couldn't believe how good the pain relief is now, I was up few hrs later and home after two nights. I think things have moved on so far now with surgery.
I wish I was nearer to you. Me and my family would help you.
Would you like my mobile number so we can keep in touch over the coming months?

gingeroots Sat 04-May-13 09:42:34

They have really good and varied anti nausea drugs these days so please ask and ask again if you get to the stage where you need them .

GreenEggsAndNaiceHam Sat 04-May-13 13:44:26

yes, anti nausea drugs are the business. Get the injections listed on your med sheets pre op, so you can get one as soon as you start to feel sick. I found the injections worked a lot faster than the pills.

coorong Sat 04-May-13 16:43:51

Hello tear sorry to hear you're facing the double whammy. I've just had one for BC. I had a reconstruction using back muscle which I wouldn't advise if you're having both.

Anyway, re the drains. I had three drains, 3 back and 1 front and there was no pain having them removed, only a gently tugging on one of the back drains. As for recovery,. I had a long operation and lots of nause, but the drugs trolley was fab (think nightclubs!).

As smee says, take control. I found the BC nurse great, and I certainly shed a few tears - they're used to it. Don't feel embarrassed. Breast has details of different operations, and if you're not happy with what your surgeon offers, ask if you can see a different surgeon at the same hospital.

Re child care. It would be a really good idea to get someone in the house the few days you get back. Can someone pop up from down south for a few days?. My sister inlaw was a lifesaver and gave my 2DD the attention I couldn't. I realise your DH and you are having issues, is it worth him attending the consultants with you? I don't know, just a thought.


bicyclebuiltforfour Sat 04-May-13 17:02:47

I have no experience of breast cancer, but I had ovarian cancer a few years back. Having DH sit in on all the consultations really helped: getting that extra person's perspective, having someone there who was (slightly) less emotionally affected by it all. It also meant that there was someone else who had heard what was said and so could remind me of it when my mind played tricks on me and I mis-remembered things.

I spent most of every consultation fighting back tears too, so don't worry about that. They'll have seen it all before. Cry, get it over with, and then you can focus on the job in hand.

My point is that I'd recommend you take someone with you for your consultations. It really really helps.

If you can't take DH, try Macmillan or ask at your hospital. They may well have someone who can come with you (hospitals sometimes have volunteers to act as 'friends' for patients). Heck, I'm sure someone from MN would come if they lived close enough (I would but I'm in the USA...). Having someone there sharing the burden with you may well be a huge relief.

Ditto childcare. Have you thought about asking at your local church (whether or not you attend one)? People there may well be happy to help out if you'd be comfortable with that, if only to cook for you: we do it over here all the time.

Teardropsonthedancefloor Sat 04-May-13 21:01:04

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coorong Sun 05-May-13 15:38:04

there is slight movement restrictions with the LD transfer and depending on your size etc, you may want implants aswell. But best go with what's clinically advised - talk to the surgeon and the BC nurse - they usually have a broad perspective having seen hundreds, if not thousands, of women go through similar experiences.

It's really important to have a second set of ears at the appointment. A friend is good, but perhaps your friend could mind your baby while DH attends the appointment. Sorry if I got the wrong end of the stick, but I got the impression he wasn't on the scene - please don't be upset - I rpobably didn't read your posts carefully enough. If he is, it would really really useful if heard from the surgeon about the operation, how long you will be in hospital and your recovery schedule (ie how long you'll be out of action, not driving etc).

Teardropsonthedancefloor Sun 05-May-13 20:40:25

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coorong Sun 05-May-13 21:47:27

That may be his way of coping. Some of us aren't great at dealing with health issues, particularly when its someone else to whom we are close. If he is a task oriented person, perhaps use the appointment as a way of getting some specific role he can play. before during and after.

So instread of asking for emotional support, ask for practical support. I don't know, I'm not a therapist, but perhaps this is a time to play to his strengths. good luck

Teardropsonthedancefloor Fri 06-Jun-14 19:51:13

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Teardropsonthedancefloor Sun 08-Jun-14 10:16:34

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Jenijena Sun 08-Jun-14 10:27:20

Hello teardrop, don't have any practical advice to give you, but glad you've made some progress and can at least say hello!

paddyclampo Sun 08-Jun-14 13:49:11

Hi Teardrop

I had my risk reducing mastectomy in November and I lived to tell the tale! smile

Also I'm very pleased with the results!

Like you I was convinced I would die under the anaesthetic and was very nervous. I don't even remember the point at which I was knocked out but I do know that I didn't have any sensation of time passing. I couldn't believe it when they said that all those hours had passed!

I didn't feel at all ill after the op, was a bit washed out that's all. The drains were definitely the worst bit, the pain was bearable and pretty much non-existant if I took everything they offered me!

Because I had the strattice I had to have the drains in for 2 weeks. The implants I had also had expenders to stretch the skin.

I have NO regrets about what I have done and am 100% back to how I was pre surgery now smile

Good luck!!

Teardropsonthedancefloor Sun 08-Jun-14 21:19:26

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StillProcrastinating Sun 08-Jun-14 22:31:05

I've had one done, waiting to get the second off later this month. My drain didn't hurt at all. Nurse made me take a big breath in as she pulled it out, and i didn't feel anything.

My surgeon tried to push me down the back tissue rebuild root, but I pushed back and have gone for implants. Personally I think he just liked to do the other operation as it was more interesting for him.

Am sure you'll be fine. I had a wobble on the way into the theatre, but because I was there because of DCiS I knew I had no option. It will be different this time as I am electing to have the other removed, but I am just going to remember to breathe and get on with it.

Good luck!

paddyclampo Sun 08-Jun-14 23:14:04

The drains didn't hurt, either when they were in or when they were removed. I hated them because I had to carry them round everywhere and kept forgetting about them!!

I had painkillers for about a week afterwards but to be honest after the first couple of days I just took "over the counter" ones like neurofen.

I'm definitely glad that I went down the implants route as it's a much less complicated op!

ICanSeeTheSun Mon 09-Jun-14 20:14:54

Op I watched a documentary the other month and it's possible to have a nipple tattoo.

I don't know if this could be an option for you.

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