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Hi, I'm so confused, scared and ashamed right now.
I've been seeing a new man for a while now, having been single for almost a year. Last week we spent the night together. However, he has problems 'getting it up' so although we tried, full penetration did not happen. (sorry if tmi)
Then today he text me saying he's been to the Dr, and that he's had pain in his penis, and the dr told him It's herpes!!!
I've googled the symptoms, I don't, and never have, had them. There's also nothing that says penis pain is a symptom of herpes. I've only slept with 3 men, and am as sure as I can be that I don't have anything.
Also, the NHS website says its diagnosed from a swab test, and that results take a couple of weeks. So how had his gp diagnosed him ?
I'm just feeling scared, worried, confused, you name it!. Does anyone have any advice? Other than the obvious go and get checked, which I will do .
Thanks, and yes it makes sense that he could be shifting the blame, and blaming his problems on that. We didn't use a condom, as we didn't actually get that fat iyswim. I know we should have, but he didn't seem to get hard at any point.
He seems so lovely, and I thought I could trust him, but maybe not, I'm doubting my judgement now.
The only symptom I've had is the flu one, but I think it was actual flu, as did the Dr when I spoke to her on the phone. I certainly had all the flu symptoms, not just flu like if that makes any sense.
It's unlikely u have herpes if going forwards u do t get any sores genital wise. Flu would be first and same time. If it's been a few weeks after and u don't see any u should be fine. U can always test to b sure.
I think he's blaming u but he's always had them. It's not one u wouldn't be sure of tbh. It's very common as someone else said.
Well it's a good few days incubation. He can work it out.
Up to u, it's perfectly fine to have rels with it. Either medication or knowing your own triggers. It's not like he will spend life alone! Just a shock. Assuming his story is sort of true. Depending on how u two feel about each other u don't have to split. Or can drop each other like hot brick, herpes itself isn't the issue exactly.
Sorry I'm really not explaining that very well. Am on phone feeding bubba and watching dd... Does anyone else get my meaning...!?!