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vaginismus how to cure it(10 Posts)
can anyone help with this problem, I have been to my gp and had it diagnosed, she mentioned to me about getting a product called a vagi wave for vaginismus, does anyone know where to buy one as my doctor said several patients swear by it but i could not find it in boots unfortunatley i could not go back to the doctors so am now stuck and want to buy one.
They have it online here - it looks like something that might work; I personally couldn't bear to sleep with something in me though.
I was told the best thing is to gently stretch with dilators - Amazon sell a set for about £40, sh! sell a set as well for about £50. GP said the better ones vibrate as well as stretching, she said that can help to relax the muscles.
Personally though I have tried a vibrator (couldn't afford to shell out £40 on dilators, although GP said if I ever fancy they can get me an NHS set!!) and it didn't work, it was intensely uncomfortable even with lube! So I'm still stuck, watching and waiting to see what else is suggested..
i think you can get this on line via the intanet, if you do a search it should come up, the 2 words have a hifun between them. i saw it in a magazine editorial last year and it has very good testimonials, looks like your doc got her info from patients that had bought and used it as well. i remember thinking it was brilliant when i read it and wish i'd cut the page out to keep but i know i found it on the intanet with no hassle. just give it a go, people are raving on about it quite a bit but like you say vaginismus is not talked about openly but is a very big female problem which might explain why it is only available online so ladys dont get upset or embaressed etc.
thanks for putting the link up, good on you. its better than dialtors as it is so so tiny and does not stretch you open like a dialtor does. think science has moved on from stretching things open - based on - if we are told to keep our pelvic floors tight then you wouldnt use something that stretches you open and makes you all saggy. my sis used 3 dilators and her hubby was always moaning she was not tight if you know what i mean. that made her worse and self conshus as he bits were getting more loose, then she had a prolapse 5 yrs on because anything she done to try and tighten up the stretched saggyness did not work.
as for sleeping with something in you, no different to a tampon only smaller and no risk of toxic shock etc. i can remember reading a lot of teck stuff and there were medic quotes too. come to think about it, if you have to have a smear and are forever fretting thats a real good reason to get one according to testimons it has got loads of women through a smear when it was impossible before using one, that was what the article was mainly about - womens safety then sex - which is kinda right really.
I'm almost there! I got the amielle dilators (on the NHS, only cost me standard presciption charge) and the books from vaginismus.com though the books didn't really help that much. Dilators, LOTS of lube and working on my own attitude to sex and myself have all helped. It's taken about 6 years as I've done a lot of stopping and starting. Still need to use dilators before hand but the past few times we've have intercourse it's been pain free. I just had to come to the realisation that sex was never going to be spontaneous but I can live with that as long as it doesn't hurt anymore!
Happy to talk about anything if anyone needs a friend through this. I know how lonely it can feel xxx
So pleased to hear this. I promised myself that if vagiwave worked I would leave reviews in as many places as I could so we could spread the word!
Please please please anyone suffering with vaginismus buy vagiwave. This product has changed my life forever.
Don't put up with this problem and let it ruin your life. Vagiwave is such a simple solution and will change your whole life.
I have not been able to have a relationship for over 10 years and now just a couple of weeks after finishing my 21 day programme, I am in a lovely new relationship, enjoying a normal sex life and I'm happier than I can remember.
Hypnotherapy worked for me BUT that was after a gynae identified a physical cause (turned out to be a dermatitis affecting my nether regions causing scar tissue to form- first gynae missed it)
I got my set from vaginismus.com . For me the books really helped as did having access to the internet forum - I think if I'd just had a set to do by myself I would have given up as it does hurt and you need a lot of positive energy to keep encouraging yourself. I found reading other people's experiences really helpful - a bit like a mumsnet for vaginas!
The books also helped me think about my past sexual experiences and identify a load of weird beliefs I had about my body.
They are a bit American to read but I'd highly recommend them (I'd also avoided relationships for over 10 years - now happily married with lots of lovely sex)
I know this is an old post but are any of you still really suffering. Had this issue for 10 years now and it's beginning to become a real problem. Got married 3 years ago and managed to get pregnant whilst undertaking psychosexual counselling. Since giving birth (section due to vaginismus pain) I haven't been able to do anything with my hubby. Little girl is 2 next month so really is a problem. Any advice would be greatly received x x
Had a child in 2017 and recently been told I have vaginismus got given some dialtors but just cant get on with them
Is the vagi wand worth the buy? Been reading some reviews on it.
I'm 27 & could do with getting sorted ☹☹