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Have you had pain in sex after delivery or girdle pain? Have you found help easily? Visiting gyneocologist. PLEASE help with wording.

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slowcooker Sun 11-Sep-11 14:04:37


Going to the gynecologist on Tuesday for pelvic and vagina complaints. How do I word my difficulty to have sex doggy style after childbirth. Sorry can't put it any other way. I feel apprehensive about the appointment but needs to be done. Sex like that is a big no no. Sex in the missionary position is not a walk in the park either but after initial penetration (with a lot of lubricant) is a bit more tolerable but still needs to be quick as can't keep legs apart for long without hurting. There is a spot inside my vagina which is still very sore.

I have a 6 month old baby. The delivery was done by forceps. I also had an epidural which I read may have worsened the symptoms. I still can't walk properly or part legs without aching, have to keep stride short, struggle with stairs and back aches after even 10 minutes walk on the flat, hips hurt, too. Sex is difficult to get on with (through no lack of want) I couldn't walk properly since I was pregnant. At the time midwife took no notice. Anyway, since 2 -3 months after delivery I've been complaining to GP to no avail. Pushed for gynecologist appointment as I was not aware that what I have in pelvis could be girdle pain as I would have pushed for a physio as well. I may have that but also cannot have sex in the doggy style (which could be an alternative position to the missionary position).

It brings me down. I used to walk up hills and cycle before pregnancy. Was not slim but certainly not unfit. Now I can't even push baby's pushchair properly. Missing out on buggy fit and getting fit again.

Please also give me your account on physio results for girdle pain. What should I expect. I was advised to seek a special women's one as sometimes mainstream physios don't address the issue properly.

Thanks for listening.

HarrietJones Sun 11-Sep-11 15:27:38

Did you have SPD? You sound like me. I'm 11 months on & at a plateau.
I've had Physio which helped a bit , Osteo was v good then I had a fall & it set me right back.
I get pain on my pubic bone during sex, parting my legs is difficult.

Footle Sun 11-Sep-11 20:13:28

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

HarrietJones Sun 11-Sep-11 20:28:35

That's what we tend to stick to. Does get boring though blush

hayleysd Sun 11-Sep-11 20:33:03

I had SPD in my second pregnancy and ds2 is now 21 months and I still get pelvic pain, every now and then it also feels like my hip has popped out of place, I can't ride bikes or walk far any more and physio didn't really have any more suggestions, need to get myself back to docs as it has started to get worse again this weekend.

mrspear Sun 11-Sep-11 20:39:31

I cannot comment on girdle pain but in regards to sex i am nodding big time. And i had a "natural" delivery - not my words! Are you breastfeeding? I was told to come back when i stopped as that can cause pain due to hormones making things dry - if i remember rightly. I really hope you get better help than your GP and that things improve.

HarrietJones Sun 11-Sep-11 20:50:44

I'm seeing an orthopaedic specialist on Tuesday so we could compare specialists to see if they are any good

slowcooker Mon 12-Sep-11 17:08:00

Many thanks for your replies.

Have a look at the pelvic partnership do google search it's a registered charity that has a lot of information. I was told about it by a yoga teacher.

I have a problem with the side position from behind as well Footle hence visit to gyneo, don't know what happened in there during delivery that left me still feeling sore inside after 6 months. Did swabs, too, as suggested by GP, to check for infection but all clear. Dreading tomorrow but hoping it'll start the process for further referral for pelvis too. Also I was thinking I hope to get a woman. How can a man gyneo get the problem if they haven't got the bits themselves Lol.

Oh dear hayleysd, 21 months sounds a lot. Do you think that the yoga teacher who suggested I pushed for referral to see a specialist women's physio was right? Maybe normal physios don't know how to deal with this. I dread not being able to ride a bike again.

I think that SPD is another name for PGP (pelvic girdle pain) HarrietJones. Good luck to you for tomorrow. Let me know how you get on with orthopedic.

Durex lube helps but not entirely problem due to dryness mrspear. It's much more than that. Good luck to you, too.

HarrietJones Tue 13-Sep-11 12:29:19

I've just spent 3 hours St the hospital. Not very productive. X rays don't show anything. Hips possibly separate problem to SPD, offered an MRI to check for tears.

Hope your appt is more productive.

slowcooker Tue 13-Sep-11 13:17:50

Hello HarrietJones

Sorry to hear that it wasn't very productive. Let's hope the MRI will show something they'll work with. Keep in touch and let me know.

Saw the gyneo. He was very kind, thankfully. Basically I couldn't be examined properly as it hurts so much at the entrance of vagina. He suspects a nodule is there so he suggested having anesthesia to see better and remove nodule but there is no guarantee that the pain will go altogether. He said to give it a bit more time and see so back for that in 6 months.

As for pelvis he referred me to a physio at same hospital, I requested a name that I heard is a women's specialist physio so fingers crossed I'll get somewhere with that because is making my life difficult.

I mean how did you get by for 21 months? I'm struggling so much with everyday stuff and want to be more active and move faster to get things done and it's bringing me down that I can't.

Take care

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