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Menopause question - promise it doesn't involve any gross oversharing...
Is it possible to just quietly have a menopause without really noticing? My AF is getting less and less frequent. I don't think I have had any for the last two or three months. I get a bit warm from time to time but no more than manageable. BTW I am 46.
Ok, so I don't actually need to do anything? I have had some gynae issues in the past, though nothing appalling. FWIW one of the reasons I have my lovely DS is that when he was concieved I thought I was sort of pre-menopausal and therefore could take just one risk with contraception . And I am losing weight, not gaining it, but this has an adequate explanation in the vast amounts of walking I am doing.
I'm now 54 and my periods stopped about 6 years ago. Have been very lucky with very few hot flushes or other symptoms (not so lucky with other health issues though). So have never taken anything for the menopause.
I had a fairly quiet menopause. I just stopped bleeding one day about 20 months ago and that was that. I have had hot flushes, but not constantly and am not a candidate for HRT. I have been taking evening primrose old and, despite wanting proper drugs for everything, it has helped I think. Do go and have your smear, you are daft not to. I loathe it as it is agonisingly painful due to a keloid scar on my cervix, I also have had regular mammograms due to that being the norm in the countries I was living in. The last one discovered a slug like thing in my right breast, two ultrasounds later, I've been given the all clear. Do it, not nice but necessary.
I can't tell whether I am going through it or not- (my mum breezed through hers without noticing !) I started taking tamoxifen coming up to 2 years ago and that blocks oestrogen so you do experience menopausal symptoms - hotness (but nothing terrible in my case) and periods a bit few and far between - so am not sure whether this would have happened naturally or is being pushed along by the medication. I need to go for a smear actually and you should too. Routine mammograms happen after 50 and if offered you should really go for those-that's how my breast cancer was discovered !
I'm 50, still regular, if I've had a hot flush I've not noticed. No weight gain. Nothing at all really - very boring. In fact, as I have fibroids and they're supposed to reduce post menopause, I wish it would hurry up!
I am sorry to break the bad news- but what you having is the peri-meno
You don't need do anything, unless you feel really rough and want to consider HRT to maintain some quality of life.
My periods fizzled out over about 18 months, mainly getting lighter, but with very few gaps at all, between 51-53 and I had no meno symptoms at all up to then. I thought I had been one of the lucky ones.
But then the flushes began and I was having them hourly, as well asslpeeing badly.
I am on HRT but cannot stay on it forever- it is mainly to help with my sleeping.
My weight it pretty much the same as it was in my 20s but that is down to sheer will power, exercise and if I do put a few pounds on they take forever to shift- much harder than before.