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I am so tired I could cry.

(48 Posts)
Pavlovthecat Mon 04-Jul-11 19:46:32

Utterly exhausted.

Is it possible that past lack of sleep is catching up with me? that is what it feels like. Can lack of iron in pg and then breastfeeding catch up with me even though i stopped bf'ing 3 months ago, and eat well (most of the time?) and even though I had HG in pg, and did not have low iron (it stayed good all the way through)

My DS is 19 months old and now sleeps through (mostly). I sleep well most of the time, have nights when I wake up a lot, and no matter what time I go to bed, or wake up in the night if the kids need me, I wake at 6am or so, and then doze.

But, recently, I have been almost unconscious, rather than sleeping, that is how it is feeling. I hardly move in my sleep I am so tired.

It does come and go and I have days when I am ok in the daytime, just hits me at about 7pm. I am in bed by 9pm latest, on good days. I rarely stay up as I struggle to keep my eyes open.

And today, I struggled to get up, i struggled to wake up. And I had to get up for work, and even as I lay there knowing I was going to be late, I just dozed off again. My head and my body just refused to move.

I have been tired all day, like proper yawning and sleepy tears. I am normally fine, even after a bad nights sleep, in the day time, plenty of energy just slow down earlier. But not at the moment.

I have spent all afternoon struggling to get off the sofa after work, forced myself, and while i was moving about, my eyelids just wanted to shut, I have had tears streaming down my face from feeling exhausted, my bones feel weary.

And now, I feel so tired, I am almost past tired, if that makes sense. I actually feel a bit hot and have a headache I feel so tired. I feel quite tearful, have not had tea and no energy to cook it. I am going to bed soon and i know I will be asleep in minutes.

Why on earth am I feeling like this? It started when I started running about 2 months ago? but i have not been running for a while so it is not that. I eat well, most of the time. I am drinking more water than I used to. It started before the weather became hot but on and off and currently it is worse than ever. I am drinking less coffee, but not suddenly, so not caffiene withdrawal and don't think i drink too much either. I drink alcohol about averagely, 3-5 glasses a week. I smoke rarely, around 1-7 rollies a week (normally with wine). I am relatively fit and healthy so what is going on?

Selks Mon 04-Jul-11 19:55:38

Sorry to hear that you feel so awful. Extreme tiredness is a horrible feeling.
If you can't think of a specific reason that is causing you tiredness (e.g. lack of sleep, stress etc) then you really do need to discuss this with your GP. Maybe it's the iron again, or maybe it's another health issue. Get it properly checked out.
Hope you start feeling better soon.

mamalovesmojitos Mon 04-Jul-11 19:55:49

Sorry to hear this. I empathise. First thing you should do is identify If you have any other symptoms. Pains, feeling hot or cold, interrupted sleep, changes in weight or appetite, change of mood, anything? Then you must go to your gp and insist on a check-up and blood tests. Tell him you know your own body and it's normal tiredness. I've been there. <<squeezes hand reassuringly>>

mamalovesmojitos Mon 04-Jul-11 19:56:42

Sorry - it's not normal tiredness.

FJMLuckyMumma Mon 04-Jul-11 19:57:36

Could you be pg?

ThinkHeIsStalkingMe Mon 04-Jul-11 20:00:01

what FJM said

Pavlovthecat Mon 04-Jul-11 20:01:59

mama - ah, you just made me think of something. I do get hot in the evening. I have been suffering from swollen feet recently, and the other extreme of bad circulation in my feet - i looked down the other day to see them looking blue! shock but colour returned to normal after I wiggled them and moved feet/bent toes.

But with all that, I also remember - i had the contraceptive implant in about 3 months ago...i am going to look up side effects...

I actually feel more physically tired now than when DS was at his worse sleep wise. It was weird as my body found a way to cope with that, it took its toll on my skin and my mood and I sacrificed a lot to get sleep whenever I could, but I never felt drop down tired. Right now I am forcing myself to type as I want some ideas of why, and I am refusing to go to sleep at 8pm, but earlier, 3pm in fact, I actually dozed off like I do in boring meetings at work, when pasta was cooking for kids tea!

Pavlovthecat Mon 04-Jul-11 20:03:22

FJM no, I have the contraceptive implant in, was def not pregnant when it was put in.

BUT. I have put on weight. Not much, but a bit around the midrift (starts to panic!!) although that is normal i think with the implant.

Pavlovthecat Mon 04-Jul-11 20:04:38

so, mama yes changes in weight too. Getting bigger. I actually feel uncomfortably bigger around my belly, I have never ever ever had excess weight, not even in pg with both children, I had a small round bump only.

mamalovesmojitos Mon 04-Jul-11 20:08:08

Well I have sarcoidosis. First Symptoms were swollen ankles and feet, pain in joints and complete exhaustion. I am not a doctor but just saying. My feet were so swollen I could barely walk. It's more common to lose weight though, u lose your appetite with it. Coughing, chest pain or trouble breathing are other symptoms. It's quite common in women smile.

mamalovesmojitos Mon 04-Jul-11 20:09:45

Night sweats too. Just saw you wrote about feeling hot.

Pavlovthecat Mon 04-Jul-11 20:12:50

i just looked up side effects of nexplanon [sigh]

common (not very common) side effects include Fatigue and weight gain
rare (not very rare) side effects include sleepiness, hot flushes and achey muscles.

All info suggests seeing GP if any side effects are present, and get blood pressure checked.

I have no time and am too tired anyway wink, off to google sarcoidosis too! then bed for a sleep

Pavlovthecat Mon 04-Jul-11 20:13:24

definitely night sweats. DH complains, but atm it is difficult as it is v hot and stuffy at night time anyway.

boysrock Mon 04-Jul-11 20:17:37

Thyroid? God I know how you feel. That was me last week complete with dodgy feet. My own theory is low hb with me. Either way a set of bloods is in order.

Assuming you get the energy to go! <note to self>

Pavlovthecat Mon 04-Jul-11 20:22:31

i shall make a gp appt, but i just know what he will say (or she if i see the female) - you have had months of little sleep, and you have two children, of course you are going to be tired. Or. If it is the female - do you think you could be depressed? (i get that when i ask about pretty much anything, in fact last time i mentioned i was too tired to do anything these were what she offered!)

Pavlovthecat Mon 04-Jul-11 20:23:51

ok, keep ideas coming, i shall go to bed now as I just can't keep awake any more. I have nothing ready for the morning, but i just cannot be bothered. I am normally so particular about my bed linen being straight etc, right now I cannot be bothered to sort it all out, i shall sleep as it is. Now that means I am tired!

boysrock Mon 04-Jul-11 20:26:47

Oh yes that gets trotted out everytime here too. Good enough they do do the blood form.

The only advantage to all this is thar work keep commenting on how pale and tired i look ~Im sure i got an extra break last week because of it. The trouble was i was that tired i couldnt fully enjoy it.hmm

pollyteapot Tue 05-Jul-11 12:19:32

You might want to consider Coeliac disease. After my son I was like you, so tired I could cry (often did) and there came a point when I knew it wasn;t the tiredness of being a new mum.

A got a blood test which showed postive for whatever the markers are for CD, and then an endoscopy. Within 2 weeks of going gluten free, I could nto believe hoe much energy I had it was amazing.

That has changed now and I am much more tired lately, but that's probably my crappy lifestyle.

Worth checking, but if you want to get tested for CD, don;t go Gluten free until you've had the tests as you start to get better very soon (although it can take many months to revcover) so you still want to be eating the pasta and bread until the doc says otherwise wink

Pavlovthecat Tue 05-Jul-11 20:39:47

polly oh no don't suggest that! I LIVE on bread and pasta. It is pretty much my staple diet! Coeliac disease doesn't just happen though does it? it is something that you always have just don't realise? <panics again> I have been terribly terribly tird today. At work I just wanted to and lie down in the staff room, or rest my head on my computer. Ithought of ways to get out of an important meeting, i felt so sleep i thought i would pass out. I then got a terrible headache which is only going now with the help of a glass of red wine which i will regret tomorrow.

I did not get out of bed until 7:30am. I am meant to start work at 8am. Although to be fair I did have DS in with me from darkness (3am?) due to teething. DH in spare room so DS sprawled and figited. But blimey, i just felt so zoned and unable to get out of bed. Physically unable!

Docs next week, but can't get earlier appt as morning appts no can do, work every morning.

pollyteapot Tue 05-Jul-11 21:04:16

AFAIK, it can just happen by reason of a stressful event and childbirth is considered one of those triggers. Sorry petal.

I've had issues all my life with my bowels so I;m not sure if I've always had CD, but after DS was born I had horrendous bowl spams every single morning and within a year, I got a diagnosis (only after the anti spasmodics were of no use)

But fear not - you can get bread, pizza, biscuits, pizza bases, flour, all on prescription if you are officially diagnosed (as for how they taste, well, some taste better than others)

pollyteapot Tue 05-Jul-11 21:08:06

Sorry, meant to add, I hope you get some rest tonight, I know that a good sleep does not guarantee you will not have fatique.

Oh, there is always chronic fatique syndrome too. there is always something to worry ourselves silly with when googling out symptoms smile

sittinginthesun Tue 05-Jul-11 21:12:00

Hi. My youngest child is four and a half, and I was exhausted to the point of pain for four years after he was born. Endless blood tests, dodgy thyroid which did rectify itself - now I avoid gluten completely, and take a vitamin D supplement, and I am fine again. Even started playing tennis.

Hope you can find the cause. Xxx

bacon Wed 06-Jul-11 08:44:10

I would consider a bout of chronic fatigue too as it sounds very similar to what I had. Slight depression, IBS can both cause these symptoms. I would defo get tests first to confirm all the basic stuff. Any wheat allergies would produce pain/weight lose and illness and you say yr diet is good so I wouldnt concern yrself over that nor the odd glass of wine.

As for implant/pill recent evidence has proved that there is no connection between weight and contriception - mainly coinsidence. I had the coil fitted and really love it now my weight gain started years ago and if you managed the pill well then you shouldnt get any effects from other types.

Hope you feel better soon.

Pavlovthecat Wed 06-Jul-11 19:37:17

I just feel so silly going to gp and saying 'i am tired' it feels so lame. I know it is not, i feel it is not, but really feels daft saying it out loud.

My feet are also bothering me a little atm, yesterday and today mostly. They are very achey and a bit itchy (like chill blanes in fingers), and are red/blue in places if I stand too long/don't move them for too long.

Thanks for all the suggestions and for making me realise there are lots of causes, all manageable and that I am not just being a bit pathetic. It is how I feel.

I told DH about coeliac disease and he firstly said 'lets hope you are not, that would be tough!' and then 'it would not surprise me, you have eaten so much of it your body is probably rejecting it now!' and then 'you have not been on full steam for a while, and you eat too much bread...' so wow, he reckons there might be something in it...!

sittinginthesun Wed 06-Jul-11 20:28:45

Won't hurt to cut it back a bit and see. It is worth taking a vitamin supplement too. Can't believe the difference since I started taking vit D.

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