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I was incontinent after a 3rd degree tear. It was hard to take and just another problem to manage. It contributed considerabley to my pnd. I have recovered now but I do worry about it being a problem again later in life as the pelvic floor was so damaged. How do you cope THC?
Ok for my Urinary incontinence on the practical side I have learnt to self cath 4-5 times a day as my bladder does not empty as have no sensation in it and I also use pads a swell not the first sort wa soffere dby the nhs as for me they looked like nappies and at 37 my nappy days were well and truley passed . People need to know there are lots of stykes and absorbciens and need to make sure they get a referal to a incontinence nurse
.For my bowels I have a program where i use enemas every other day which means it lessons the risk of a accident .
I also carry a change of clothes and wipes just in case I have a acccident as well as hand gel and a bag for any dirty clothes .
When I was first told I cried a lot it was hard to find others that suffered with it as incontinence is not often talked about .Even though many more people(both men and women ) live day to day with it in differnt forms .
Broken you would be suprised if you saw me you would not even notice it I would bet .I wear slim jeans or fitted trousers
It is the fear of someone else notcing it that is the worse thing for most people and you are right is is far more common but as no one talks about it .People do not realise . While im not advocating shouting it out in shops .I do think it should be less of a taboo subject and woman and men should be given help and advice and where to turn to and hopefully this thread may well give people somewhere to talk about it and share their worries and fears as well as sharing practical tips
Just wanted to post support THC. Although I have never had an 'accident' I live in fear that one day.... I have MS and incontinence is one thing that is mentioned as a possibility. It is not so much that i fear at the moment but the fact that with severe mobility probems (I can walk but very slowly and with a stick) I sometimes feel there is a possiblity I will not make it to the loo. The MS means that sometimes you get a signal that you have to go NOW. This is fine(ish) in the house but when out can be horrible. I awalys make sure I know where the loos are but even so they might be far away. I have always made it (DH is very understanding and knows how to get me to where I need to go). I will often take spare pants and a nappy sack....... With the MS, people know I can't get around but I think most don't realise about the incontinence. As you say it's the tabooness (?) of it. Being able to talk about the fear as well as practicalies would be good. I am sure some would have some good stratagies (like you have).
You are right , people are not comfortable about talking or reading about it .As the dissaperance of the post does say it all .Yet i know there are more than us on her ethat live with it or the fear of it