Bit of a difficult one this. My parents are both in their mid 60s but my mum has bad dementia and is totally incontinent (both).
My dad works from home and 'cares' for my mum.
But for the last few months she has become weak and lives upstairs in the bedroom.
He REFUSES all help, from us and from friends and to be honest, my mum is suffering as she has not had a bath or shower now for a year and he will not let anyone look after her.
As long as she stays quiet and leaves him alone then he's not bothered.
He does clean the bedclothes and tries to give her bed baths but he is not coping at all.
He refuses to contact his GP as he says he is useless, he will not change doctors as he says no one will take her on (but he has not even tried).
He says he will NEVER have carers over and to make matters worse is that my mum is lighting candles in her room and today he sent me an e-mail to say she burnt half the carpet!
Is there anyway that I can alert someone to check on my mum? He won't even tell me who the GP is now and I'm not sure if they will help me due to patient confidentiality.
It's daft that there are more laws out there to protect animals than elderly people with dementia
If he knows I got help for her, he says he'll disown me WHAT CAN I DO?
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How can you get help for relatives who are not coping?
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Ripeberry · 03/01/2011 19:52
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