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Humiliation. I feel like a toddler....

(10 Posts)
OhCrapingHell Sat 13-Nov-10 16:00:35

Named changed for what will become obvious reasons...I crapped myself today. Full on filled my pants. I'm 8 weeks postnatal and have been having a little trouble holding things in, but till now it's just been a tiny bit before I've managed to get to the toilet.

But today i was in the middle bfing and i don't know if it was something i ate to make it particularly soft but i just couldn't control it and by the time i had abandoned the LO to the bed i had literally filled my knickers. it was so humiliating. fortunately i was at home. what will i do if i am out?

mentioned it to gp at 6 week check but that was before it was this bad. he just said to do pelvic floor exercise.

anyone else had this problem & have any positive stories?

OhCrapingHell Sat 13-Nov-10 16:39:18

bumping before i name change back, else i'm going to out myself

TheProfiteroleThief Sat 13-Nov-10 16:42:35

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

AllOverIt Sat 13-Nov-10 16:42:54

Oh bless you. It sounds as though you need to be referred to specialist. I had to be referred as I had a third degree tear and needed to do special exercises. 18 months post-natal and I'm so much better. There is 'stim' therapy out there to help improve things if the exercises don't work.

Go back to your GP and ask for a referral. At the very least you need some physio, if there's no specialist in your area.

GregoryPeck Sat 13-Nov-10 16:47:10

I don't have any proper advice but bumping for you, I don't want to see it unanswered. However I would definitely seek medical advice, it is definitely not normal to have faecal incontinence postnatally (not saying that to make you feel more humiliated, but just to let you know you shouldn't be expected to put up with it!)

I don't think the GP can have realised the extent of the prob if he advised just pelvic floor exercises.

fannybaws Sat 13-Nov-10 17:04:29

Hi OP you need to haave a referral to a colorectal clinic and obstetric physio asap,you might have a third degree tear that was missed.
Did you have an episiotomy or tear after your birth?

OhCrapingHell Sat 13-Nov-10 18:13:51

2nd degree tear, stitched up at home. so this isnt just me being neglectful of my pelvic floor?

i'm terrified to go out now

EnnisDelMar Sat 13-Nov-10 18:29:17

No no NO it's not your fault you poor thing

I had a friend who had a difficult first borth and there was damage to her muscles, which meant she'd no control - she had to have a repair, and went on to have another child by elective caesarean.

She is fine now.

Seriously, please don't wait, you need to get this sorted and it CAN be sorted, don't worry x

OhCrapingHell Sat 13-Nov-10 18:38:17

I'm just reading the thread about rectocele repair and I think I may have a rectocele (bulging into the vagina). i assumed it was still swelling from labour.

and this is probably tmi but i think i've passed that now but i have uncontrollable wind too.

just read that thread and apparently the recovery from the op is 3 months!

AllOverIt Sun 14-Nov-10 07:38:37

Uncontrollable wind is also another sign.

PLEASE don't be terrified. The colorectal specialist I saw was absolutely lovely. A lot are midwives who have retrained so well aware of all the things involved. I can let you know what happens in your appointment if you want, but don't want to scare you off if you think it's TMI.

All I can say is the specialist was LOVELY and made me feel completely at ease. As I say, 18 months later I'm as good as I ever was in terms of control.

Please ask to be referred by your GP. smile

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