I've gone anon for this. My Dad is in his 60s and diabetic (poorly controlled). For the past few years he has shown increasing signs of dementia, with short term memory loss and confusion. My mother is adamant that this is not the case, and he denies it too, but with far less conviction.
At the last family get together, my Dad groped me as I put dishes away. Properly groped me in a very sexual way. I am certain that he never did anything like this before. I yelled at him, but did not tell anyone else, as I thought my DH would be so furious that we would not be able to visit my family again.
He was also verbally abusive towards my sister in an obscene way. I did not tell her that he had groped me, but was vehement in my warning to her to be careful for her personal safety. Our Dad is a big powerful man, both my sister and I are physically slight.
Now we are meant to all be going there for Christmas. I am very worried. I desperately want to go, because I love him, and I think it is likely that this will be the last Christmas that he is mostly " still there".
Does anyone have any advice? My sister has written to his GP about her concerns, but since my mother denies that there is any problem, I don't expect that we can get him help.
There is absolutely no point in trying to convince my mother to take things seriously - she has never listened to us, ever.
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AyeNon · 12/11/2010 11:04
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