Hiring local nannies while on holiday???(18 Posts)
I know that if we take our 2 year old to a normal self catering villa then I will spend my entire holiday working my butt off cooking and cleaning and trying to stop him falling in the pool and drowning.
So I had this great plan to go to a holiday place in southern France, a smalll farm where they have a few self catering units, but, crucially, a creche and an evening babysitting service staffed by English speaking nannies.
However, my partner has vetoed the plan on the grounds he thinks its too child oriented and he hates forced socialising with other families (hence he would never countenance things like Mark Warner). He would rather rent a villa in Greece or the Caribbean (needs to be somewhere hot at the end of September/early October) and hire a local nanny to take care of him during the day and evening.
Does anyone know how easy it is to find a good local nanny to do this? Has anyone tried it? Is it a realistic option? Is there anything one should bear in mind?
Sorry to ask but why do you want to go on holiday together?
Yes, a holiday with a child can be quite exhausting but in a way that's life. We did self catering, villa type, until DD was 4 and only swapped to a farm stay/complex styles as it was more difficult to entertain DD. At 2 years she was easy.
In all honestly, it is a very different style of holiday than what DH and I did pre-children but like all aspects of life it is the way it is.
We did 2 weeks Caribbean this Easter, I think we hardly spoke to anybody else apart from the staff but DD had the time of her life in the pool, kids clubs and activities. You can do all this in every setting.
I don't think a 2 year old would happily be entertained by a nanny he has never met before.
Scott Dunn have nannies locally. Or Look for holidays with a creche, check tots too or quo vadis websites. Creche nannies will normally babysit in evening for an extra charge. Make sure its a creche not a kids club they normally only take kids from age 4.
Not sure why pp thinks kids wouldn't be entertained by a nanny but would by a kids club, what's the difference?!
My two year olds had a couple great holiday nannies in creches in resorts of course did spend plenty time together as well.
if money is no object look at country kids in the south of France. Perfect for what you are looking for.
or you could hire a nanny to look after him at home
Think country kids is probably where op was looking at originally that was vetoed.
It does look unbelievably overpriced for a holiday in a cottage in France!
my sil went here with 2 yr old and 4 yr old and had a fantastic time and returned again 2 years later. I thought it was extortionate but she reckoned it was worth it and the older child had an absolute ball. Their neighbours went with them also but I think they had separate gites.
You could try Periyali villas in Zakynthos. Own villa with a pool but also a communal pool and fantastic crèche / kids club. We met some really nice people when we went and it was very social but didn't see some of the other guests at all. Best of both worlds.
I am with noramum, I can't understand why someone would go on a family holiday and not spend it with your child. We have such great memories of when our girls were that age, it seems a shame, to me, to leave your little one with someone else for the whole holiday.
Maybe you should leave your son at home with grandparents or something and go on holiday just the two of you, it doesn't sound like you really want him there with you at all.
Heels - I don't mind my child having fun with a nanny or a kid's club for a couple of hours or having a babysitter when going out for a drink after dinner.
But, not all 2 year olds will happily do this, mine - while good as gold at nursery - wouldn't even participate in a music group without sitting on my lap and we went every week. Leaving her at a kid's club would meant a meltdown.
I think it sounded more like the OP's husband looked for a complete childcare program instead of spending time with their child on holiday.
Stop judging. Everyone needs child free time fgs.
On the subject of child-free time and at the risk of incurring lots of fury, I am pasting in this poem which I first read in our local NCT mag when my eldest son (now 25) was a baby:
“To My Grown-Up Son”
My hands were busy through the day,
I didn’t have much time to play
The little games you asked me to,
I didn’t have much time for you.
I’d wash your clothes; I’d sew and cook,
But when you’d bring your picture book
And ask me, please, to share your fun,
I’d say, “A little later, son.”
I’d tuck you in all safe at night,
And hear your prayers, turn out the light,
Then tiptoe softly to the door,
I wish I’d stayed a minute more.
For life is short, and years rush past,
A little boy grows up so fast,
No longer is he at your side,
His precious secrets to confide.
The picture books are put away,
There are no children’s games to play,
No goodnight kiss, no prayers to hear,
That all belongs to yesteryear.
My hands once busy, now lie still,
The days are long and hard to fill,
I wish I might go back and do,
The little things you asked me to.
by Alice E. Chase
Heels - yes, everybody needs child free time. I enjoyed my business trips, even including weekends as they meant no running after a pre-schooler and getting up at ungodly hours.
But - if I go on a family holiday then I put my child in the center of planning. Time flies and fast enough DD wants to go on a residential camp, spending time with friends and not with mummy and daddy. We can only do one big vacation each year so I want to make the most of it.
So we choose something where DD isn't bored and DH and I have time for us. But I would never push her for all day and evening care just so I am not interrupted at the pool. This is the same as if I would just park her at kids club and continue working at each school holidays.
I enjoy some child free time too but not a whole holiday. For me a family holiday is just that, for family to spend time together, not to exclude one member of the family.
Children are only little for such a short time, I love to enjoy every moment I can of their childhood and my husband feels the same.
I just couldn't go away and then leave my children with a stranger the whole time, it would just feel mean.
Yes heels that was the place. I thought it sounded perfect - my son would have absolutely loved it. Rather than childcare for me, I saw it as entertainment for him, far more novel entertainment than I am usually able to provide. I can't offer him tractor rides and goat feeding where we live. However, as you say it is eye bleedingly expensive especially if you are a small party, and that, combined with the socialising with other inmates, made my partner revolt.
I am not looking to farm my son out 24/7 - it's just that I would like to have a siesta in the afternoon sometimes without worrying that he will drown while I am asleep. And I would quite like to go out for dinner in the evening without having to take an overtired, grumpy toddler with us.
Op I would go for the country kids. My sil and Bil would not be great at socialising with others and I don't think it's a requirement. For them to go more than once it says a lot. I know the older boy had a blast and the toddler seemed to stay more with them. She did go a few times to the activities but they had a wonderful time as a family also. I just know the cost was huge , nearly half my annual salary !!
OP - I've got friends who've been several times to country kids. I don't think you have to be social if you don't want to and kids can dip in and out of activities as they want to.
As I said before I would really recommend Periyali Villas as well.
Might is not be better to hire a nanny from here and then take them out with you? At least you have a chance to meet them before the holiday. If your child goes to nursery maybe ask the nursery staff there? Otherwise maybe look and see if there is anyone at your local childcare course who is looking for the experience
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