Honeysuckle help!

[WipsGlitter]

What is the best way to train this??

It's refusing to go over the top of the fence, should I put trellis on the wall or over the top of the window?

Or be firmer with it and make it go over the fence??!

[ChishandFips33]

Guess it depends where you'd prefer it to grow

I have one like this and tied string to the longer bits and pegged/pinned it to the other side then wove other bits through as they grew

You could put a trellis or string on the other side of the fence and train it over

[WipsGlitter]

I think I'm too worried about damaging it! I need to be firmer and force to go along the top of the fence.

[MikeUniformMike]

It's quite tough. I have it and it takes some abuse but it's in bloom now and looks lovely even though it's in what I consider the wrong place.
Use string or trellis or an arch and tie it.