Just in case

[UrsulaPandress]

A safe space for worrying.

[HesMyLobster]

Here for hand holding if you need it. And gin (obvs)

[UrsulaPandress]

Only one day to go.

[HesMyLobster]

Less than 24 hours now!
I'm attempting to tackle clearing out DD's wardrobe as she's out all day.
You know that feeling when you wish you hadn't started something?!

[HardwickWhite]

Glad to have found you Ursula - I was really worried.

I feel sick. DD seems unconcerned which is not a good sign in her. I feel completely helpless.

[Nettleskeins]

ds is not getting out of bed...this has been pattern for last few days
we had a violent outburst when I mentioned going in to get the results with him, so that if necessary I could pay for any re-marks and organise it with the exams officer (school not known for their availability unless at very specific times like this - a 3 hour window)
"I'm not getting any re-marks, Mum, why would i need re-marks when I've an unconditional?" because if you get an E it might be nice to see if that's the wrong mark

Dh is refusing to discuss anything to do with exams until we have the results. I want to have another plan in place, before the backlash, and I want ds to not feel he has failed, if he has failed, but there is merely the opportunity to take a different path, to which he is better suited.

they are both having none of it [harumph]

Hardwick I keep feeling there is something I should be able to do to "give ds wings" to use a hackneyed phrase. The results are really just a minor part of this. But because he is 18, results are such a a turning point. He'll remember and care what he gets, from now on. Yet from our point of view, it is only a small step - we want the best for them and we know exams aren't everything, but how to convince them that their worth isn't measured by this stage in their lives?

Lobster the wardrobe sounds an excellent idea. I will have to make do with my own, as ds won't let me into his room!

Dh has just mentioned to me that he used have newspaper covering his student carpet, as he didn't hoover it for two years (had no hoover) and he used to just change the layers of newspaper. He never mentioned this before!!

[Nettleskeins]

Sugar and alcohol are making me feel much much worse. I woke up this morning with a blinding headache and terrible night's sleep, not from alcohol but because dh gave me a large slice of key lime pie when I came back from my trek down Southend Pier/football match/long train journey in the middle of the night. I cannot process sugar anymore, even in cake form..

[starfleet]

DS is distracting himself by working again today.

He's going to check track before going into school to collect his results in the morning. Neither of us will probably sleep tonight.

[UrsulaPandress]

Sorry if I came across as a flouncy drama llama. Poor signal in Anglesey plus not recognising loads of posters.

DD is losing the plot as the day draws nearer. She has made a list of alternative courses and included philosophy and religious studies!

[starfleet]

Flouncy Ursula - nothing wrong with flouncing occasionally.

DS told me that he thinks I have done a good job as a parent. He made me cry.

[UrsulaPandress]

Oh how lovely. I had a random weep whilst grazing the horse this morning.

[Nettleskeins]

that's seems very sensible of your dd Ursula. not at all losing the plot-ish.. I've known students being interested in completely different aspect of their subjects by the end of the degree, and often they wish they had done a different degree. Even going onto the course you originally picked with the details of the another course at the back of your mind, can inform you during the first weeks, if you are desperate to change or unhappy, and stop you dropping out in the sense that you just move sideways instead of losing hope/interest.
I did English and I really wish I had done agriculture or environmental science.

[Nettleskeins]

still have a stonking headache, not normal for me

distractions for today included: compost has gone right down, the joy of the hot weather is the twigs have finally been subsumed into circle of life
well earned rest after walking miles in Southend yesterday with ds2
ds1 admitted he would like to go to Ireland again and leave his room as it is getting a bit boring in there
I've put some Lego in storage
I've thrown away surreptiously the RE gsce stuff, don't think dd would retake it even if given the choice, and ds2 has a B already.
I washed a LOT OF CLOTHES
chatted to three friends awaiting A level results for their children, most said they had completely backed off and were trying not to get over invested

[UrsulaPandress]

I see that hoarding is being classified as a medical disorder. I wonder if the gp would proscribe a person to come and sort my shit.

[HesMyLobster]

Wow! Yes please to that!
I'm considering getting a skip next week, and possibly paying somebody (a cleaning company ?) to come in for one day and clear my spare room and garage without me even looking!
I've tried to get rid of stuff, but my "just in case" urge is just too strong!

[MarchingFrogs]

I've tried to get rid of stuff, but my "just in case" urge is just too strong!

On the radio this morning was the news that Hoarding is to be recognised as a bona fide disorder.

I sent DS1 (aged 21) a message to tell him thato celebrate this, today I am wearing a cardie I bought in the BHS sale when he was a few months old.

We have no A levels this year (DD next year, plus DS2's GCSEs), so I am getting anxious on behalf of a friend's DD instead.

[UrsulaPandress]

Okaaay. Dds course is showing in clearing with BBC. She was asked for AAB. Presume this is good news?

[HardwickWhite]

Well, I know nothing, but it would look like good news to me Ursula!

[Nettleskeins]

Yes, but the point is that most of the people on the course will have the higher grades. The clearing places are added on to bump up the numbers. It doesn't mean that course is devalued in any way just because it has some places in clearing. They will be a small proportion of the places; and presumably your dd has already got her place allocated, whether with ABB or BBB. Or AAA!! So the cohort will still be high achieving.

A Mumsnet admissions lady once explained this painstakingly. I stand to be corrected of course if there is anyone out there!!

[MsAwesomeDragon]

That looks like good news to me Ursula. It looks as if they'd be happy giving her a place at the clearing grades, they should be.

I'm also glad to have found you, we were all worried about you.

[UrsulaPandress]

Her insurance wanted BBC and we were confident that she would achieve that. But now I am worrying.

It's going to be a long night. Shall I hit the wine or the gin?

[UrsulaPandress]

I finally heard from the breast cancer clinic. No areas for concern. Wit woo.

[MsAwesomeDragon]

That's fabulous news about the breast clinic!!! Celebrate with whatever substance you enjoy the most. For me that would be chocolate ice cream, but if you prefer gin or wine go for one of them 🍷

[Clairetree1]

I've got a really bad feeling about tomorrow.

My gut instinct is that it hasn't gone DS's way

and I have had bad dreams the last few nights

[Clairetree1]

The worst of it is the breezy assumptions from friends and family that he will have done fine. I'm dreading having to keep on telling people differently.

[UrsulaPandress]

Just told DD about her course in clearing. Initial relief then back to thinking she may have got U grades across the board.