Advice on adoption

[Himum79]

Looking for advice I’ve just failed the 1st stage of adoption, has I had said I’d smacked my own child on the top of her arm has a natural thing in the past.

Then the social worker said come back when u have practiced not to do it in the future

[Azaziel]

Can you understand why they failed you? Your ‘natural’ reaction is to smack a child if they’re naughty?

[2Kidsinatrenchcoat]

I’m not sure what advice you’re looking for? Take some parenting classes, work on anger management and gentle discipline techniques.

[Cassimin]

Would you think hitting your partner was ok, or them hitting you?
Hitting is a definite no no

[june2007]

Could you try with a different agency? I know adoption agencies are strict. How about fostering?

[Cassimin]

I’m a foster carer with an agency and if you said you hit your child there is no way you’d get through the assessment.

[PabsyPops]

I am a social worker and saying you would smack a child is HUGE no no!! You need to think about what other behaviour management techniques you would use as smacking is not appropriate chastisement!

[Aquamarine1029]

Are you actually surprised you failed your assessment?