Hi all, I’m just hoping for some advice. I’m going to try and keep as much detail back so it not outing.
My sister and bil have fostered a child for the last three years. Child had been bounced around foster care for a while before settling here. It was always a bit bumpy but there were plenty of good and happy times.
I moved quite far away so didn’t get much chance to see them. Foster child is now early teens. Seen them before Xmas at a family event and Dsis said they’d been having quite a few issues with behaviour at home.
I’ve just come back from visiting them and I’m really worried about her. Her and the foster child’s relationship has broken down badly ( I think past the point of no return) they are really disrespectful to her and now their friends are starting to do the same. There is lots of shouting in the house, stealing, manipulative and antagonist behaviour.
Dsis is having basically no support of the agency - in fact they have been quite rude to her whilst she has been asking for help. Her marriage is taking a nose dive because of the stress and she is tying her self up in knots trying to deal with things. She looked shattered and really down. She really doesn’t want to give up on the child, she loves them but it’s getting too stressful to the point her marriage and mental health is suffering.
They don’t have any bio kids due to fertility issues so this really is the first time they have had a child to look after but they are the nicest couple. They have really tried to give this child a stable normal home.
At what point do you say ‘I can’t do this any more?’ I can’t imagine what she must be going through and don’t know what I can say to her without me sounding awful.
Has any one had any experience of this?
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Jimmy54321 · 12/03/2020 20:29
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