Help please Our granddaughter

[Nana6]

Myself and my husband have been put forward for an sgo for our granddaughter we have passed everything social Servises are all for her coming to us but her guardian is against it it is the last hearing in June any advice please

[Isatis]

Do you have solicitors? If not it could be worth getting some advice from a solicitor with experience in this field.

[Nana6]

Hi thank you for your reply we have a solicitor has anybody else been a position like ours before

[AvocadosBeforeMortgages]

Probably helpful to have a chat with the Family Rights Group too

[Decormad38]

Why is her guardian against it?

[blackcat86]

You need more information on what the current barriers are. What is the guardian objecting to? As to meet with the sw if you dont have this info already. Getting a solicitor is a good idea. Gather all the paperwork that you have relating to your granddaughter for them.

[Apolloanddaphne]

I am a social worker and I too would like to know what the guardian objects to. Keeping children within their birth family is something that should be done if possible. No family is perfect but it can be better in the long run that placing a child for adoption or long term fostering. Where is she at the moment?

[Nana6]

Hi thank you for the reply's she is in a mother and baby unit at the moment her mother has had children taken off her before thats why she is being watched at all time my son who the father of the little
girl in question is there problem they thing he will find me if i get the sgo so the guardian thinks she should be up for
adoption im not going to let that happen

[Apolloanddaphne]

I guess I can understand the concerns. You would need to be able to prove you would protect and prioritise the child over your son forever. That means effectively cutting him out of your life. Are you prepared to do this? If he turns up at your home and tells you he is a reformed character could you turn him away? Would you be willing to move and and not let him know where you live? Could your other family members be trusted not to pass on information about the child to him? A lot to take in board.

[cranstonmanor]

How many siblings are there? Would you just adopt your GD or would you have to take tgem all?

[Nana6]

Thank you all firstly i have cut my son off don’t speak to him we live over 200 miles away from him and he doesn't know where i live and i would never tell him the two siblings from her first marriage live with there father so would only be my granddaughter we would never adopt as she is our granddaughter

[Apolloanddaphne]

In that case I think you sound like great candidates to care for her. Good luck going forward with this.

[floraloctopus]

Good luck OP, I hope it all works out well for your GD.

[Nana6]

Thank you all i will keep you all updated court is a week on wed so got everything crossed

[Nana6]

Thank you all an update we have been given the sgo and our granddaughter is home with us at long last been a tough 9 months

[flapjackfairy]

Oh lovely news. Congratulations x

[MrsSpenserGregson]

Congratulations @Nana6 {I'm welling up}. (I was adopted as a baby)

[FuzzyOwl]

Congratulations

[goodiegoodieyumyum]

Eonderful News, congrtulations

[Nana6]

Awww wow mrs spendergregson im just so glad she is with us safe and sound thank you xx

[Nana6]

Thank you all for your kind words it means the world to us that she is home at last xxxxxz

[Teddybear45]

If your son is dangerous that can be grounds for you being rejected. Had to have a similar conversation with SW about my DN - thankfully my sister was co-operative and working with them, but I was warned that if she stopped or was proven to be a danger my DN would be taken from me. While family is often the preferred choice, and the SW did support us, they made it clear that if adoption out of family was the safer route for the child they would take it. Thankfully they didn’t with us. You need proper legal advice and a second opinion on your case.

[Apolloanddaphne]

That is wonderful news.

[stucknoue]

Great news. Beginning of the rest of your lives together

[mrsed1987]

brilliant to hear x