My feed
Premium

Please
or
to access all these features

Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on fostering.

Fostering

How often can my daughter see her child after I am given SGO?

5 replies

Underpressure96 · 23/10/2018 21:23

I am currently getting a Special Guardian Order for my 4 month old grandson. Social services have said my daughter can only see her son once a week when he's with me (which is less than she sees him now in supervised contact)
This has hugely upset my daughter as she wants much more regular access.
He was taken from her at birth as she is an addict and used throughout her pregnancy (she did not know she was pregnant until 7 months gone) she has since kicked the drugs and has been clean since he was born, however is obviously in no position to care for him at the moment.
What I'm asking is how strict are social services with her contact? All contact she has will be supervised and within reason - I was imagining a few days a week so was shocked when I was told it is to be so limited. I'm am completely willing to do what is best for my grandson, and if that means no contact with my daughter if she takes a turn for the worst then so be it. however I feel just 1 day a week is not sufficient, he needs to bond with his mum as well as me.

OP posts:
Report
newcupcake · 23/10/2018 21:40

It will be whatever is set out in court when the SGO is made. She will have opportunity to voice her thoughts on contact during the hearing , social care will also put their thoughts across and a judge will decode and issue a contact order alongside the SGO. You will then have to stick to this.

Report
mildshock · 23/10/2018 22:02

I'm sorry you're going through this, but I'd stick to SS's plan. If you organise more regular contact without having the green light from SS, it will likely will be seen negatively and possibly go against you.

Without knowing any more details, it's likely that SS will want to increase contact with DD and DGS as they see her progress. Continue to support her. Be her advocate when you see her doing well.

Report
0lga · 23/10/2018 22:06

You need advice from these people . They have a helpline

www.frg.org.uk/

Report
Jutz · 23/10/2018 23:30

Would it be worth checking whether she could get access via FaceTime aside from the once per week

Report
fasparent · 30/10/2018 12:45

Would go along with SS ., but would ask for a provisory be put in the order for you too increase contact as and when all concerned deem it safe too do so (people do change) . Did this for kinships of our child now several years on Grandparents have regular unsupervised contact , we did this slowly over a number of years and has worked very well. DS loves them too bit's.

Report
Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.