DH & I are both being made redundant within months of one another near the end of this year, and since we have no mortgage etc. we intended to each find something near to home, undemanding, low paid but enough to live off (I'm 50, he's 57). I've always wanted to foster, and now feels like the perfect time - we have a spare room, I could do it FT, and I'm quite excited at the prospect. DH is also keen, although he prefers to find something outside the home for himself he would also like to be involved. We have had our first meeting with the agency, and I'm meeting with them again next week to progress the application. However, DH has started having nightmares (yes, ACTUAL nightmares) that he loses his temper and shouts at the FC who is traumatised and then runs away. He is starting to really panic that he is too loud (he is boisterous, bless him) and that he'll cause the child more problems. I have 2 children from a previous marriage, and we have one (17 yo) together and they all love him and have suffered no trauma or damage so I don't know where he is getting this from. He can be a bit rough around the edges but he's full of fun and all our little nieces and nephews adore him because he's always playing and singing and generally being daft with them. I don't want to give up on my dream, but neither do I want to put him under pressure - nightmares for goodness sake! He says he is worried he will never be able to relax and be himself once there is a FC in the home.
Can any experienced foster parents offer any reassurance or advice? Should I just give up?
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Giraffe211 · 03/09/2017 12:02
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