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amandaDillon Tue 18-Oct-16 23:11:27

Hi All,

Myself and partner have been fostering for a few years and we are in a bit of a dilemma. We have two little girls who we are fostering right now, they have been with us for two years, one since birth and the other since she was 3 years old.

They have gone in to be adopted and a suitable family has been found to adopt them and have been approved. It is breaking our hearts to think they could go and we were wondering if its not too late for us to be put forward to adopt them, hopefully we will be preferred as we have had a relationship with the girls for longer then 2 years now and they are settled, but I really am unsure so any advice is welcome.

And also does anyone know if there is any financial support available to adoptive parents?

Any hep will be greatly appreciated.

Thank You

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fasparent Thu 20-Oct-16 14:06:05

WOULD Speak too Adoption team and social worker soonest, may be a little too late, but be best for yourselves too express your best interest for the children .and their outcomes with least disruption., as the children have been placed for more than a year you can apply for adoption in your own right direct too Courts.
Would ask advice from CORUM Legal and first4Adoption.

elfish Sun 23-Oct-16 00:59:56

Is this your first newborn and small child placement?

it is usual to not want them to leave, but is staying with you really best for them?

You would be breaking up a family, parents who are waiting excitedly for their children to come home to them.

Our job is to foster and help build new families, not keep the children for ourselves.

I know some children just click and foster carers adopting them is right, but not as a knee jerk reaction to them leaving.

Think really hard as to why you would want to keep them, and if you proceed make sure it is for the right reasons.

you would likely have to give up fostering and wouldn't get financial help, or very little financial help.

You have obviously given these two a wonderful start, enabling them to go on and be part of their forever family, you could do that again for other children, making something wonderful happen again with your care and compassion.

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