I have previously posted under the Adoption thread, as when we started this, we thought that we would be adopting. Hope this link works:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/adoptions/2101817-Permanent-placement-of-6yo-with-us?
If the link does not work, basically we are in the process of taking a 7 year old relative of my DH. It is a distant relative, a little boy, and he has been is SS care since May 2013. Originally we were offered an adoption however, we were then told we could not adopt him as he wants to maintain a relationship with his mother, so we were told that a Special Guardian Order could be made.
We are new to all of this, so have had to learn quickly and the advice I received on previous thread was excellent. After looking at all the options we have now requested that we foster him on a kinship placement for 6-12 months before we do the SGO. This is really to keep his support in place. We also have a 2 year old DS and a 16 year old DS and have to look at the impact this is going to have on them.
His SW has just called and said that whilst he is under s20 care, his mum still retains parental responsibility for him, so we cannot foster as the Local Authority doesn't have PR and isn't willing to apply for it. If we fostered his mum would keep the PR.
Backstory to the care is, the child's mother did not cope with him, and this gradually turned into her abusing him, by hitting him, starving him, denying him basic clothes, taking all his things from his room including carpets, curtains and light bulbs and locking him in the dark. She then contacted Social Services and placed him in care herself. She maintains to this day, the abuse he suffered was his own fault as he was naughty. His SW confirmed that to me in her last visit.
I just do not understand how she can still retain PR for him despite everything, and the Local Authority not be willing to apply for it so they are basically trying to force us into applying for a Special Guardianship before we are ready. Of course want to get this poor child out of care and just give him the love and stability he has never had, but we still want some support with that. Has anyone ever had experience of something similar?
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GertyD · 05/11/2014 14:44
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