Had an older teen in placement for 18 months.
Has been really difficult, lots of things we weren't told about at the beginning that would have affected whether we took the placement or not, but none of this came to light until YP was settled, despite a serious lack of involvement from our LA, things were OKish so we stuck it out.
With hindsight, nothing had really got better and it was beginning to affect my own younger children so we decided enough was enough. Being an older teen, we know there is a shortage of hostel and supported lodging placements locally, so we gave the LA 3 months notice to give them plenty of time.
YP then did something unforgivable and seriously put my children at risk so took the notice period down to 28 days (the minimum we can give).
YP was then told and then moved out and in with a friend and friend's parents and has since refused to come home.
During this time I've had no contact from YP, friend's parents, YP's SW, no one. Friend's parents have been really hostile to us and refuse to speak to us when we've called to try and talk to them, YP doesn't answer calls or reply to messages (other than to demand pocket money, etc)
My SSW has called several meetings and no one but me and SSW has turned up, emails are ignored (I always attach a read receipt), phone calls not returned
The police made it really clear, in writing (well, by email) that I am not to report YP missing to them each night, as far as they're concerned, YP is safe, we know where YP is, it's not a police matter so my SSW instructed me (also via email) to ring into the LA OOH service each night and report YP as unauthorised absence (if they want YP reported missing, they can do it) Which I've done each night, recorded the name of the person I've spoken to, and recorded times, etc, in my diary (I can prove that a phone call has been made to their number each night from my phone records), I've also sent an email to my SSW and YP's SW following the calls giving name/time details each night
There's then an 'incident' with my YP overnight a few days ago. YP's SW has made a complaint because I failed report the 'incident'.
I knew nothing about the incident, YP had not been here for over a week, I informed LA OOH that YP was not here, as per instruction, no one told me, so how am I reasonably expected to know about it? The first thing I knew about the incident was when my SSW told me about the complaint
So what happens next? SSW has been quite reassuring and thinks nothing more will come of it, that YP's SW has big time cocked up and is trying to pass the buck, but I am so fucked off and also worried that this will reflect badly on fostering in the future
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Freddiefrog · 13/02/2014 13:07
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