We have a 16 year old and her clothing allowance was agreed as £60 per month. She gets £15 a month for mobile phone credit (has a plan for calls/texts/bbm) and £20 a week pocket money
She came out of a secure unit a little while ago and needed a whole new wardrobe.
So, took her shopping and we bought a capsule wardrobe - jeans, tops, jumpers, shoes, a coat, etc, all chosen by her.
She's also had her clothing allowance for this month - wanted some summery stuff, and some ballet flat type shoes.
We also treat her to odd bits and bobs if we're out and see something we think she'll like.
The thing is, she's really careless with her stuff - she left her ballet flats outside last night and it rained so they're apparently ruined and wants another pair. She was drunk and ripped her coat, and wants another one. Pretty much everything is now covered with make up or nail varnish or ripped and she's demanding we replace it (none of it is unwearable or unrepairable, just not perfect any more)
Now, the way I see it is, she's had way more than her agreed allowance already, we had provided her with everything she needed and more, she's 16 so perfectly capable of taking care of her stuff and if she wants it replaced she needs to either spend her own pocket money on it, or wait until next month
Is this fair?
I have bought her another pair of ballet flats today as she needs flat shoes for school
The other thing is pocket money - she gets £20 a week pocket money.
I buy her the basics she needs - toothpaste, tampons, deodorant, shower gel, shampoo, etc. I'm also happy to buy some bits of make up. But, she trowels it on, or loses it, and demands more. She gets through pots and pots of foundation, so I've told her that I'll buy her a pot a month, any more than that she'll have to buy out of her own pocket money.
Is that reasonable as well?
I've tried speaking to FC's SW about this but am not getting any response but my SSW agrees
It's just we're having a few difficulties with her at present and need to reign her in a bit.
We treat her exactly the same as our own children - if I treat my DDs to something, we treat her as well.
Thanks!
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freddiefrog · 09/05/2013 14:36
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