We are new to fostering. When I say new, I mean that I have not actually formally discussed it with DH yet- we have spoken at length about it as Some of DH's family foster, but not actually in a "this is something we could do" sort of way.
My big issue is, and its something I need to square in my own head before I plough on forward: When you have foster children, how do you reconcile yourselves to them going back home?
Now I know that no child is supposed to stay with you forever and I 100% accept that. If a child is moved onto an adoptive family then I imagine that gives great satisfaction alongside the sadness. However I have seen children with truly appalling backgrounds come to our relatives house. There they are well fed, well clothed, have sensible and sympathetic boundaries and relationships. To then put these children back where they have come from seems almost cruel to me. I accept that they are returning to their own family, but they have had a taste of what life is like for most kids and then had that taken away.
I think this may be me over thinking as I only have a bystanders experiences, as well as having a 9 yr old DS who leads a most comfortable life.
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TheFantasticMrsFox · 13/04/2013 23:53
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