How do members of your extended family deal with you fostering and what can you do about their reactions to it?
We live several hundred miles away from our families so will be travelling back to stay with my parents for a few days. We'll spend Christmas eve and day at my parents house, then the inlaws boxing day, then a couple of days visiting friends
My parents have been fantastic. They met our FC over the summer and have treated her like one of the family. They sent presents for FC's birthday, and have bought Christmas presents, done a father Christmas stocking the same as our kids, etc, etc. My brother and grandmother and our close friends, have all included her, along with everyone else who buys our kids presents.
Now, we knew that MiL was a bit worried about us fostering, but last night she rang and made it very clear that she doesnt approve and told me that she didn't want us to take FC with us when we went on Boxing Day as she wanted it to be just 'family time'
Now as far as I'm concerned, we all come as a unit or we don't come at all. Our FC is very much a part of our family and you don't get to pick and choose which of us you see. I understand that it's us fostering, not her and I can't insist that they welcome her with open arms I suppose, but I'm not leaving FC out at Christmas, well not at anytime, but specially at Christmas
Usually I'd just leave her to her strop but our kids absolutely adore nanny and grandad and would be beyond gutted not to see them at Christmas
I jus feel that if my mum's next door neighbour can buy our FC a selection box, then why on earth can't MiL show a bit of compassion for 1 bloody day?
But is it too much to expect her to accept another child, when it's our FC?
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