Hi , I'd like a bit of advice from someone who has been through fostering or is a current foster parent. I'm quite young 21 to be exact , in a very stable relationship with my fianc? we have been together for 5 years , and lived together for 4. We work our bloody socks off and have just bought our own house. I work with children and specialise in working with children with additional needs and children deemed in need and families and social workers etc. Really have vast experience I started working in this area at the age of 16 and got thrown in at the deep end as such ... I've seen a lot. Were financially stable. I went through a miscarriage at the age of 17 , now a bit older and wiser I possibly feel its benefited me in the long run. I have numerous qualifications and a degree children's learning and development 0-11. However after the miscarriage it planted the thought of having children in our heads , were just realistic that it's never been right. I'm not sure I want to commit to having our own children yet. I do feel however that we would be able to offer a loving stable home to foster children. We have the space etc. With my training and experience I know we could comfortably cope with a child with a few additional problems like mild learning difficulties etc. and full understand this isn't 'our' child but I just feel if we can do something we should.
I really honestly understand what a commitment it would be ,as does my partner, and its something we've discussed for around a year and a half but now were in a position to do more than talk.
I know were young , but theres not many 21 year olds that have a mortgage and their own home , we have a LOT of life experience and probably a bit wiser beyond our years.
We just like family life. We socialise but don't go out often and many of my friends are older , and have children of their own ....sort of what happens when you work in the field. We just feel ready.
Does anyone have any thoughts or advice ... be honest. Also I have read about some foster carers doing it as a career ... some having to give up work and some balancing work life with fostering ...what's the truth ?
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Fluffanstuff · 21/10/2012 22:10
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