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Rubyx Tue 04-Oct-11 22:29:23

I have two rooms and am approved for 2 kids.. so at the moment i have one in each a brother and sister. I have been asked to do some respite care for a 18 month old and a three year old. I will set up the cot i have for the 18 month old and wanted ideas as to where to get the 3 year old to sleep as i don't have a spare bed or room. Didn't think this through before i said yes..any ideas? Push comes to shove my daughter will have to sleep with me and the child can have her room.... she won't be happy having a three year old in her room though

shaz298 Wed 05-Oct-11 09:08:55

Surely whoever asked you do do this should have thought of the logistics before actually approaching you!!

Not sure what you could do, but not really fair to take your own daughter out of her room if it's going to be a regular occurrence. If it was a one off you could maybe ,make an adventure out of having your daughter in your room with you but if it will be ongoing that's not going to work and may actually lead to your daughter resenting the FC for using her room.

Sorry that's not much help is it???? Sorry

BusterTheDonk Wed 05-Oct-11 10:26:46

we have always been told that it is illegal for a FC to share with ANYONE but their own sibling (apart from babies in your room under 2 yrs old).

I guess if its a really short term respite (i.e. 2 days max) your daughter could move in with you..

Doesn't sound good though does it... I was under the impression that you 'theoretically' had to go back to panel to be re-approved if you were going to take on more kids than initially approved for...

Also, is this really wise to take on... based on your other threads about the 8yr old girl not sleeping - surely this won't help???

I know you want to help with the respite, but you've 3 other kids to consider and for anything more than a day or two, it might cause more upset and unsettle the others (incl your own dd) - consider carefully!!

Good luck... smile

SingleFosterMum Wed 05-Oct-11 11:44:00

In our LA you aren't allowed to have your children in your bed, for obvious reasons I think.
I may have misunderstood and you mean in a seperate bed in your room.
Wow sounds like it's going to be hectic in your house, could the siblings share a room?

maypole1 Wed 05-Oct-11 21:32:11

I would not do it if anything is said your dd would have no way to prove it didn't happen.

Personally I think it's one thing for children to share their, home parents and toys but I do believe you would be wrong to ask her to also share her bedroom

And just from a safety point a view you are potentially putting your child at risk a foster child SHOUD in my view never share a room with your own child

bonnieslilsister Wed 05-Oct-11 22:38:39

i think what ruby was saying was she would have her own daughter in with her. how long are they going to stay ruby?

Rubyx Tue 11-Oct-11 22:43:46

5 days. I did mean for my daughter to empty her room. Luckily it is sorted, my mother in law is going abroad for a week, she was going next month but is going for three weeks now rather than one so it all clicked together and her room will be empty. phew,, next time i will say no rather than take too much on. I was wary of saying no as the current placement may end soon and i am very new to all of this. Thanks for all your advice

bonnieslilsister Wed 12-Oct-11 13:14:57

Well done Ruby, I would have done the same smile

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