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Fed up of being fat. Help and a good kick up the arse needed!

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Louboo2245 Thu 13-Sep-12 19:49:08

I am fat, in the morbidly obese way. I binge eat, mostly on chocolate or sweet things, though I have been known to do savoury foods.
I come from a fat family, though my sister lost all her weight when she went to uni.
My husband is overweight (I don't consider him to be at a dangerous level) as are his parents and siblings (all boys and built like brick sh*t houses).
It seems that all of them have decided to diet at the exact same time (I kid you not)
DH has lost a stone in a month doing the fasting diet, and I am proud of him. He was unhappy he did something about it, though I like him being a 'bigger' man, I support him in his choices.
DM & DS have both lost well over a stone using weight watchers, and now my dad has joined in.
DH's brothers have taken up cycling and are doing well on it.
NOW I know I need to lose weight, not only to be healthy, but because I am feeling rubbish about myself. Which hasn't happened before, despite being fat I've always felt comfortable in the skin I am in. Though that has changed and I don't know if it is because DD is fairly new (8Months) or because I'm beginning to realise that I am with DH for life and no other man will look at me (though why they would want to is beyond me)
So there is a big part of me that wants to, but with everyone round me going 'YES YES, YOU SHOULD DO IT" I seem to be digging my heels in and going 'Nopey nope nope.' Even my MIL seems to have joined in.
Someone tell me to shut up and get one with it please.

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NellyJob Thu 13-Sep-12 19:51:17

start by going for long walks with the pushchair.

Icantbe40really Thu 13-Sep-12 19:51:58

Hey me too - need a diet buddy ?

When shall we start ?

Louboo2245 Thu 13-Sep-12 19:57:37

Diet buddy would be good, but you need to be trained in restraint and how to fit straight jackets, so when I have a bad day I don't hit the chocolate smile
When would be good for you?

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citronella Thu 13-Sep-12 20:01:48

If you are morbidly obese then you need to do it. It's not about whether you want to or not. Plus you want to make sure the odds are stacked favourably as your DD grows up, no.
So as previous poster said, start with walking. Next don't go for crash or fashion diets but give yourself realistic targets (1year or 2 years) make healthier substitutions to the things you already eat e.g very low fat spread vs margerine, brown bread vs white, grill or oven bake vs fry, cut fat off meat, skimmed milk vs whole or semi-skimmed etc. Don't eat after 7pm. When that becomes a habit you can start reducing portion sizes. Then it should start getting easier. Think of it as a life change rather than a diet.

JiltedJohnsJulie Thu 13-Sep-12 20:33:27

Can understand why you would want to dig your heels in, but do it for your DD. As they get older it gets harder to keep up with them and you want to be there for her for as long as possible.

Have you tried Slimming World, my mate has lost a stack doing this and says she is never hungry, she also has had problems with binge eating.

Walking with the buggy is also a great way to start exercising. You can do it on your own or join something like BuggyFit. When I needed to loose a bit after having DS I walked down our big hill to the supermarket, loaded up the buggy and pushed it all the way back up the hill. Got fit really quick doing that one!

Try joining an online support community like MyFitnessPal too.

Louboo2245 Thu 13-Sep-12 20:54:06

Will have a look at myfitnesspal. DH uses it to track his calorie intake.
By the time I have done the school run I am knackered (Big hill in that one too) And I have gone back to work.
SH*T I am already making excuses!

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JiltedJohnsJulie Thu 13-Sep-12 21:08:33

Are you working full time? i find that at work I eat none stop, whereas I'm not so bothered at home. i've tried taking in more fruit and healthy snacks and wraps for my lunch and it seems to be helping (although I have been known to pop out once in a while for chocolate).

Is your DH doing the 5:2? Have you thought about giving that one a go? There is a thread with some more information here.

Have heard some good reports of the Paul McKenna's ICMYT although I haven't tried it myself.

Don't make excuses though, do this for your lovely new DD smile.

Asinine Thu 13-Sep-12 21:14:03

Shut up and get on with it


JiltedJohnsJulie Thu 13-Sep-12 21:16:13

Oh and if you are eating too many sweet things, stop buying them. That's what I have had to do for my DH. Now if he is hungry, there's the fruit bowl to pick from smile.

Louboo2245 Thu 13-Sep-12 21:17:22

For me it is the other way around. while there people to watch me I don't eat as much and certainly don't binge. I'm working 3 days a week and home for 4.
I work in a school so quite short days too. Though when at home, I;m rather antisocial and don't do P&T (find them boring with mothers who have nothing better to talk about other than the next milestone the PFB has hit) On the positive I have signed DD up for swimming sessions on my day off, so it's a start.

DH is doing one on one off. I was worried to start with as he dropped a lot of weight quickly, but has now evened out to 2-3lbs a week.

I have tried the Paul Mckenna thing and have tried again (though not whole heartedly) recently, but with not much success either time.

I definitely need to do something.

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laracroft2001 Thu 13-Sep-12 21:17:32

Ever since I was like 16 whenever I got the craving for chocolate I made myself an options chocolate. Got the chocolate hit but only 30 odd calories

Louboo2245 Thu 13-Sep-12 21:20:00

I try not to buy sweet things, and don't do in bulk anymore as I just sit and chow down on them, but DH is a bugger for it.
I found today whilst shopping (and just had to try them) a limited edition mars bar that is just caramel and chocolate. I kid you not. When I see things like that I just know God is against me!

Thank you Asinine smile

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JiltedJohnsJulie Thu 13-Sep-12 21:20:17

At least your family are on your side, my DM keeps shoving my favourite treats under my nose or sticking them in my handbag when I'm not looking but that's a whole other thread......

Icantbe40really Thu 13-Sep-12 21:25:05

how about Monday ? I am away until Sunday evening.

I need a major lifestyle change for myself and my family. I am morbidly obese too.

We can do this

Louboo2245 Thu 13-Sep-12 21:26:03

Hmm I want to believe that, but my own family seems to take the piss out of me more than anything. I always seem to be the stupid one. Real God honest support just doesn't seem to be there.

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TheUniversalsHere Thu 13-Sep-12 21:27:05

Boot camp saved me - I'd really recommend, if like me you suffer from lack of self motivation. If you can find one near you that you can get to... Food v important but you will need to get active too.
I also stuck to a strict food plan when I lost my fat - I was able to enjoy my meals but did not have any sugar, caffeine, wheat, diary (apart from milk) or booze. Once a week I was allowed one or two 'treats' from this list but a glass of wine for example - not a bottle! The other thing is to only eat food with one ingredient; the idea of this rule is to stop you eating anything processed or 'ready'. Of course, you can mix ingredients yourself, but this just refers to how you buy it IYKWIM. So pizza and pasta was out, but could do risotto and other rice dishes. I'm not so strict with myself anymore but it's still a good reference point and all achievable as you can still eat rice, potatoes, plenty of sald and veg, and you won't feel like you're actually starving yourself! Make sure you have a good healthy breakfast (porridge, banana?) to set yourself up for the day. Get organised so you have healthy snacks within reach and arent tempted to binge. Pay at pump for petrol if possible so you dont go in and get confronted by chocolate etc. maybe get supermarket deliveries too? Say to yourself before you go to the shop that you will not buy crap and likewise with work - remind yourself on the way in of your goal and don't have your head turned with biscuits/cakes brought in by colleagues. Not sure if any of this relevant to you but these are all pitfalls that I find and are best thought about in advance so avoided. Do it for your daughter and YOU. She will learn from your habits (good or bad) as well. Hope I've helped. Good luck!!!

Icantbe40really Thu 13-Sep-12 21:32:45

prove your family wrong !

Of course you can do it

Louboo2245 Thu 13-Sep-12 21:33:35

Monday is good for me.

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Icantbe40really Thu 13-Sep-12 21:37:53

ok we are all set.

I need to do this.
Monday here we come.

Louboo2245 Thu 13-Sep-12 21:44:24

I'm too tired to be that perky, but I will be there Monday all guns blazing. Will get some sleep and get rid of this cold and see you then!

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multitaskmama Fri 14-Sep-12 12:50:12

Hello, welcome to my world. I am overweight too and for me, even going to the gym three times a week didn't help. I only lost some weight in Ramadan where I wasn't eating from dusk till dawn. This forced me not to eat during the day despite the large meal at night. Ramadan is over now and I have managed to keep teh weight down by only one thing: portion control or having a very light lunch. Before I was eating toast, cereal and tea for breakfast, a proper lunch, tea and biscuits for teatime, and a heart curry in the evening. Nothing has changed apart from the lighter lunch and taking little one to playgroup which is a 5 minute uphill walk. So for me walking more, eating slightly less did the trick. I wish you all the best and know you can do it. GO GIRL!

multitaskmama Fri 14-Sep-12 12:50:54

oops dawn till dusk not dusk till dawn, that would have been too easy smile

frenchfancy Fri 14-Sep-12 16:55:15

I'd recommend the 5:2 diet too. I've been on it for over 2 weeks - it is the easiest diet to stick to I've ever known - because you are only on the diet 2 days a week, the rest of the week you forget about it.

Come and visit us here:

JiltedJohnsJulie Fri 14-Sep-12 17:17:02

french it is brilliant isn't it smile.

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