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so is the film 'UP' too sad for a senstive 7 yr old?

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piratecatagain Sat 17-Oct-09 16:43:54

debating wether to go and see this in half term or not.

keep reading about needing handkerchiefs etc?

I want to go to the cinema to lighten dd's current mood not add to the despondency !

Majorca Sat 17-Oct-09 17:08:29

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DS (4) enjoyed it. He did remark loudly at the end of the saddest bit "It was sad that she died, wasn't it, Daddy?" but coped with it fine. Actually I think adults are more likely to need the handkerchiefs -- a lot of that sequence was about what happens to our childhood dreams as we get older, and that's not really something that small children connect with, emotionally.

HarlotOTara Sat 17-Oct-09 18:01:54

Went to see this today and there were loads of kids younger than seven and all seemed fine no crying. Saw it in 3d which was great.

pagwatch Sat 17-Oct-09 18:02:45

It is sad but the sad bits are not verbalised. There are a series of scenarios which are suggested rather than dealt with directly and done as a montage of scenes - so an image of a woman in hospital crying, but shown from a distance so you don't see her tears is followed by a couple re decorating a nursery. You and I know that means she was crying because she has been told they cannot have children but that is not an imediately upsetting scene for a child.
My 7 year old understood what was happening butthe sad bits are strongly implied and done beautifully so children cope with its subtlty. I find that the more sobworthy but I think that is what they intend. The adults get the grief , the children just get the story

TheFoosa Sat 17-Oct-09 18:04:02

my dd watched the trailer and that was enough to frighten her hmm she is nearly 7

luckyblackcat Sat 17-Oct-09 18:05:03

My 5 yr old DS was scared by some bits, but settled down. Lots of V young DC there, but no swift exits.

However, my DD now 10, would have been very upset by it at 7 - she walked out of Nemo a few minutes in and got very upset at Piglets Big Adventure when she was younger ("Naughty Bees")

I was in tears watching the trailers for other films <weedy emoticon>.

TeamEdward Sat 17-Oct-09 18:07:03

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CybilCeremony Sat 17-Oct-09 18:07:33

Not THAT sad, moving in parts but beautifully done. Lots of very funny bits too though.

Acinonyx Sat 17-Oct-09 19:48:52

The dogs were too scary for dd (4) and we had to leave.

bigchris Sat 17-Oct-09 19:52:43

dh took ds (5) and dd(3)

the only one upset was dh, lol

upahill Sat 17-Oct-09 22:07:43

My 9 year old went to see it last night. I just asked him if he thought it was sad. His reply was something like this ' well yeah, not really, well at the beginning umm it's realy funny and there was this bit erm when Elie dies it's sad but yeah.......'(trails off)
Not sure if that helps but him and five of his mates went and all seemed to enjoy it and didn't seem traumatized in Pizza Hut afterwards!!

piratecat Sun 18-Oct-09 11:02:29

guess the general tone is that it's a 'thinker' then. I expect it would be me who finds if more 'sad' in places.

Will think on this one, and see how dd is feeling at half term. thanks for your input.

CybilCeremony Sun 18-Oct-09 11:11:42

Think you are overthinking it, take him, have some popcorn and have a good time smile

TrickOrTrefusis Sun 18-Oct-09 11:20:54

Dd2 (7) is a tender soul and shed a few tears, but no serious trauma and she loved the film. She lost both her great-grandparents earlier this year, so may well have been relating to those parts more than she normally would have done.

singersgirl Sun 18-Oct-09 11:36:27

DH said he cried twice but DS2 (8) said some bits were a bit sad but he didn't cry.

piratecat Sun 18-Oct-09 12:21:57

dd lost her cat 10 days ago, so that's why I am more cautious. a trip to the cinema should be a laff atm.

cupofteaplease Sun 18-Oct-09 14:46:59

I've just got back from seeing this with my mum, dd aged 4 and dd aged 2. Both girls enjoyed it, and were not sad or scared at all. My mum and I on the other hand were sobbing. I have cried 3 times since getting home, just thinking about it.

It doesn't help that my dad died last year so I know my mum and I were both prompted to think about all the dreams they had together that they were never able to fulfill. sad

A very clever film.

mollyroger Sun 18-Oct-09 14:55:59

I I sobbed a lot, as did ds who is 9 next week! We saw in in the 3d and the effect was marvellous, which surprised me as I hate gimmicks in films.
Then I cried some more afterwards, when I was telling DH why it was sad. I obviously did a good job as he and ds1 who is 12 both welled up grin
It is sad in an umplifting way at the end. Though I remember thinking, I would not have been able to watch if I had recently suffered a bereavement.

policywonk Sun 18-Oct-09 15:02:45

I wish someone had warned ME about it tbh - I spent the whole film crying buckets and had to run out at the end before the lights came up. My mother died last year and the whole thing was just too close to home.

The DSs (6 and 4) were absolutely fine though.

MrsCravendale Tue 20-Oct-09 10:32:49

I stumbled across this thread but am so glad I did. We were going to see this the other day but didnt get round to it. I am not over the death of my mum yet so think I would be a mess if I had gone in thinking this was just some daft kids movie... Then again, the sad grown up themes should probably be expected in Pixar movies by now! I mean, the scene in Finding Nemo where Marlin sees Nemo getting swept up in the net n has a flashback to him at the start of the film had me in sobs... And it was about the millionth time it has been on AND I was in the kitchen doing the dishes with my back to the telly but could still picture the scene in my head when I heard it!!!!

TeamAlesha Mon 26-Oct-09 20:25:44

Went to see it with 4 kids today (9,7,5 & 4) - we all loved it and the only one that cried was me - 3 times blush, much to the amusment of the kids!!

hoppybird Tue 27-Oct-09 10:06:22

I took my 9 year old ds and his friends to see this for his birthday. We also took my 3 year old dd who had never been to the cinema - she was transfixed by the experience My DH and I are huge Pixar fans so of course we came along too. None of the kids cried, (I didn't expect them to). However, as a person who is unable to watch this without crying, I knew I would be affected. I think there were three moments which got me blubbing, particularly at the start. dh described the first 15 mins as 'really traumatic - I knew you'd cry' - it is a wordless montage showing the main character's life in flashback.

However, as with other Pixars, I think it is mostly adults who would connect so emotionally with the themes, although a recently bereaved or particuarly sensitive child may be affected - but I do think you need life experience to understand fully.

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