Can we talk about prostitution?(8 Posts)
Without it being theory? (Sorry!)
I want to talk about my own actual experiences. I tend to post in Chat but the thread I posted earlier has shaken me a little. Like I deserve to be robbed (and not to be believed) because I'm a prostitute.
It's the first time a poster has made me cry and I don't really think it was deserved it felt very much like "you're a whore, what do you expect?" And I'd like to be able to discuss experiences without it leading to that point.
Are there others here who have worked in the sex industry? Or those that are sympathetic to it and can listen?
Sorry, to clarify, it's not that there's anything wrong with theory. It's just that I'd like a thread about real lived experiences (if possible). Theory is important, I just wanted a thread for people to share actual real life examples if they wanted to.
I'm just about to go to bed, but have you heard of www.saafe.info? As well as the usual advice type stuff, they have a very supportive forum (much quieter than here, of course!) and all posters are prostitutes/escorts/callgirls/pick your favourite description. There's a huge range of experience there, I'm sure you'll find a listening ear.
I saw that thread earlier, and had a sharp intake of breath. Totally understand why it made you cry.
Of course you didn't deserve to be robbed. You don't "deserve" any of the shit life has thrown at you - I haven't searched for your previous threads but there was enough info on that one.
I'm glad you have a roof over your head tonight, and have been able to charge your phone. Night, night.
I'm on saafe! They're fab! Genuinely love them. It is tough to find somebody up at this time over there though
Thank you for the kind words
I'm assuming I'm not the only person on MN either currently working/previously working in this industry. I'd like to chat to others if they're willing. The small issue with saafe (as much as individual posters are fantastic and I've made genuine RL friends on there) is that punters all watch it too. And they try to piece posts to individual women. It can get nasty on punting forums as they try to decipher it. Oh and saafe posters are all dried up old hags with no work of course. Wankers.
Thank you for your kind words. I really do appreciate it.
"Like I deserve to be robbed (and not to be believed) because I'm a prostitute."
You have come to the right place. If anyone tries something stupid like this in the feminist subforums, they'll have to get past the feminists first.
(You didn't mean the feminist chat subforum ... did you? That'd be sad.)
I'm afraid I might pity you in a patronising way that many "sex workers" would object to ... I have been accused of that. I just cannot see anything positive about prostitution.
On the other hand, if what you want is sympathy and and , that's alright.
Offering tea and cake and a hand-hold, OddSocks. That's bloody awful that you got that response.
Maybe I'm posting to the ether because this thread is a little dated.
That may be a good thing though. Confessions first. I'm a man. Technically I think that disbars me from being a feminist (at least according to some of the posters on the feminism section of MN). Even if it doesn't, I'm not sure my daughter would describe me as one anyway. And for full disclosure, nor am I a punter.
But I do believe in equality and respect. And that extends to whatever someone chooses to do in life, so long as it doesn't hurt someone else, whether they are a teacher, a social worker, a banker, a sex worker, or a politician. They all deserve respect. Even George Osborne.
I actually couldn't find your earlier post, but you gave a flavour of the responses here. I tend to think the comments generally in the relationship section of MN can be very harsh, so I can imagine how posters might have treated you.
If you chose freely to do what you do, then I for one have nothing but respect for you. There is nothing to be ashamed of and no one has the right to tell you otherwise. Plenty of people do jobs that many would not want or be able to do, whether that is trading derivatives, playing professional football, working in a sewer or providing sexual services. That doesn't invalidate any of those services. They're just jobs. And it certainly doesn't entitle people to criticise you. I'm sure you know all that, but I hope it helps to know that not everyone thinks less of you.
If you need validation, watch The Sessions.
So keep doing what you do if you are happy in yourself with it, and you take precautions to stay safe.
At the very least, you can rest assured that on this feminist support thread, with a man writing in support of paid sex, you are unlikely to be the one getting flamed.
I'm an escort also
and a member of saafe. From what I've read I think there's a lot more of us on Mn.
I haven't seen the thread where you were attacked but Im familiar with that ignorance.
Here to talk anytime away from too many prying client eyes
Ps vestal, I understand if you don't know what the industry is like it can be easy to believe media hype, but as a sex worker I can tell you there are many of us who are far happier in sex work than we've been in "normal" jobs. It's the perfect job for me at the moment and once I graduate I hope to find a job in that sector, but I'm not particularly worried as once I started escorting 5yrs ago I never looked back have been happier than I ever was in past jobs.
It's just another mundane day at the office for many of us. Far from the seedy depraved world you'd imagine
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