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Advice please. Just so angry at the moment.

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ParsleyTheLioness Sat 02-Feb-13 09:27:22

I don't even know if this is the right place, but I couldn't think of anywhere any more appropriate, so....I recently made a blog post about Mary Beard. A subject close to my heart, that I have thought about a lot. The post necessarily shared some of my milder experiences of some of the issues. Generally, I avoid posting about stuff that is likely to Trigger, but on this occasion, I couldn't let it pass. I think it probably has triggered me, and yesterday, underneath a FB link where someone was claiming 'art' in what the linker and I both considered to be selling a kind of sexual service disingenuously (sp), someone who I know is a sexist git, has put 'you're only jealous', in response to our semi-lighthearted comments. This has me in an incredible rage. I realise its not just about this one remark, but about 35 years of them....

Which has tapped into my anger at many males in the past, and their treatment of me. I am soon to be divorced, for the second time, from EA marriages.

The way I feel at the moment, I just can't see me ever trusting a man (who for all I know may be ok) ever again. And the fact that as a heterosexual woman I may be on my own forever is sad, and scary, but preferable to being in a crap relationship.

Has anyone else been able to move on from a similar position, and any advice please? TIA

TheDoctrineOfSciAndNatureClub Sat 02-Feb-13 09:33:46

So sorry, Parsley. There are a few threads on Mary Beard on here which you might want to read to feel the wave of solidarity.

Re the comments, lots of people on the Internet are keyboard warriors, that remark will have been dropped in and forgotten in all likelihood. If this person is your friend on FB, unfriend or hide?

Re relationships - there are lovely men out there and you have been unlucky. There will be other people along better than me at dealing with the aftermath of EA but have you spoken to a counsellor or to a friend in real life.

Have [tea] and a sit down on your sofa from me.

ParsleyTheLioness Sat 02-Feb-13 14:02:25

Thanks Doctrine. I have spoken about it a bit...and had some counselling, but only helped a bit. Not sure people completely 'get it' IUSWIM. Might be an idea to find a Feminist Counsellor...don't know if that's the right term, but I have heard about people counselling from that perspective. Don't know if anyone has any experience of this?

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TheDoctrineOfSciAndNatureClub Fri 08-Feb-13 22:55:12

What a fabulously helpful post and an interesting username, NN. And a link to some porn. Just lovely.

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