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Victims of Violence

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Treats Tue 19-Oct-10 12:57:05

So - this is the first thread I've started within the Feminism section, but I'm a long-time lurker and occasional poster.

I've been motivated to start a thread by this story from last week, and then also by this both in the last few days. (There was another one too but i can't find the link at the moment).

Every few weeks, it seems to me from reading the newspapers, a woman is killed by her husband or lover. Sometimes her children are harmed too.

My DH would like to argue that every single murder is an isolated incident, and caused entirely by factors only relevant to that one man. I argue that these cases are manifestations of misogyny, and that these are not isolated examples, but are all linked. He finds this an uncomfortable point of view, because of what it suggests about him, about us, about our friends.

I think that misogyny is similar to an epidemic - say, swine flu. It's infectious. It affects a significant proportion of the population, but not all. Of those affected, only a minority are severely affected. But it can be fatal - not for the sufferer, but for those close to them.

I don't know how many others here agree with me, but I do see a number of posts from some people who most definitely wouldn't. So the thread I want to start is to collect examples of victims of misogynist violence - women who were killed because they subverted their husbands and boyfriends desire to control them. I want people who visit this board with doubts about why feminism is necessary and justified to read my thread with its examples of victims and to start joining the dots for themselves.

Those posters who think that misandry is equivalent to misogyny are free to post their examples too (of women killing men).

If this thread (or something like it) already exists, then please point me to it and I will post there.

SJane72 Fri 11-May-18 18:23:45

Keep raising awareness. Her name is Kirby Noden RIP

Zhx3 Fri 23-Mar-18 17:53:48

Leanne McKie, aged 39, whose husband has been charged with her murder.

Zhx3 Sun 18-Mar-18 14:34:21

Every so often, I feel that I should link back to this thread because I think it's so important to remember these women and keep raising awareness of the number of women who are killed by current or ex-partners.

Karen Ingala Smith recently wrote a post on her blog, about the 21 women who had been killed in 2018 so far (Link).

And this article, which appeared in today's Independent.

Two women shot dead by man known to them in 'horrendous crime' in East Sussex.

Zhx3 Sun 14-Jan-18 21:57:29

Cassie Hayes, who was murdered at her place of work, in what detectives believe was a "domestic related" incident.

It feels so depressingly common that we hear of women being murdered by men that they know. Why is there not more outcry?

SweetGrapes Wed 21-Jun-17 14:10:20

Bump..... women are still being killed... thread needs updating. Am at work - but will collate and post later.

All these lovely women needlessly killed by men, just because they are female, will NOT be forgotten.

HoldBackTheRain Sun 23-Apr-17 09:30:21

A lot of women are killed after reporting their violent ex partners to the police. It's not getting any better. Women's Aid's '19 child homicides' predates something similar they did in 2008 I think. sad

HelenDenver Wed 22-Mar-17 16:38:31

RIP Shana Grice, murdered by her ex after getting penalised for ''wasting police time' in reporting him.

Nathfr Sun 08-May-16 21:42:32

Hi all & Zhxr, I have signed & tweeted the stalker register.
Reminding me how shocking it all is. Forgot for a while. Take care N

Zhx3 Sun 17-Apr-16 13:11:35

Petition to create a stalkers's register.

BarefootAcrossHotLegoPieces Sun 06-Mar-16 11:53:19

Hopefully this pregnant woman will make it, her Dd has been saved:

BarefootAcrossHotLegoPieces Sat 05-Mar-16 08:28:43

Thanks Palmer

PalmerViolet Thu 04-Feb-16 21:04:46

Katelyn Parker

So sorry to hear that Margaret.

TheDowagerCuntess Wed 03-Feb-16 08:18:30

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

No - hell hath no fury like a man scorned. Or rejected. Or made angry. Or annoyed. Or wound up.

Sophie Elliot was stabbed by her ex 216 times and then disfigured. In her bedroom, while her mother was forced to listen from the outside, unable to do anything.

MsMargaretCarter Wed 03-Feb-16 08:05:58

I knew Guida, though hadn't seen her in a few years. I can't believe this has happened to the vibrant woman I knew. I hate that this now defines her life, if you know what I mean. Thank you for keeping up with this thread.

PalmerViolet Wed 03-Feb-16 08:01:32

Geraldine Newman and children.

PalmerViolet Wed 03-Feb-16 07:56:43

DM article, sorry

Guida Rufino

YonicScrewdriver Fri 11-Sep-15 09:20:31

Around 690 women (and around 2,100 men) on 9/11, victims of 19 violent men.

RIP flowers

YonicScrewdriver Tue 01-Sep-15 09:13:32

Natalia strelchenko (Strelle) - died of head injuries, her husband is being questioned on suspicion of murder. RIP.

JustTheRightBullets Thu 30-Jul-15 13:50:37

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

BeyondTheWall Thu 30-Jul-15 13:46:42


Bobbie Stokoe

Killed before this thread started, but was a friend of mine from school

BeyondTheWall Thu 30-Jul-15 13:44:10

Its not new, but cant see it on the thread

Jessica Watkins

A friend of my sister, stabbed 27 times by her boyfriend.

BakingCookiesAndShit Thu 30-Jul-15 13:31:46

Majella Lynch

Killed in an horrendous way by a man she invited into her home.

Massive Trigger Warning

YonicScrewdriver Tue 07-Jul-15 15:22:17

RIP Jennifer Williams

Her family believe an ex-boyfriend is responsible for her death.


blueBooby Fri 12-Jun-15 15:40:35

Phyllis Hayes. Her son has been arrested.


YonicScrewdriver Mon 25-May-15 06:06:32

sad Bertie

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