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It's a mansplaining one....

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 02/07/2021 18:23

Bit of a first world problem, but it's the endless drip drip thing. Today, I had farming explained to me by a man in great detail, despite knowing that my family have been in farming for hundreds of years. I managed not to do something to him, but Lord alive, I'm beginning to think I just need to avoid anything that could lead to conversation with any bloke other than DH. Actually, I didn't start the conversation, he interrupted a conversation we were having with a cafe owner, who we know well and have only just seen after the last shut down. Anyone have a good shut down response, that doesn't involve actual prison time? Only half joking... Hmm

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BunnyRuddington · 02/07/2021 18:39

Some start young as well.

DD was at the skate park when a younger boy, say about 12, started boy-splaining how to do the move she'd been doing for the last 10 minutes, despite clearly not being able to do it himself.

When you find the answer, let me know so that I can tell DD.

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 02/07/2021 18:42

Oh no Bunny. I thought the young uns might be coming through a bit better. That's part of being woke surely? Grin

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dudsville · 02/07/2021 18:50

I watch my partner with his friends, they take turns mansplaining to one another. That's the bulk of their dialogue. I think this is the expected response, to mansplain back. I do it sometimes. I don't like it, it's like a little power battle and that's not what I'm into, but I'll do it with some men.

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BunnyRuddington · 02/07/2021 18:52

Well the response I gave my DD was to say "OK show me then". That one might have been very specific to where she was and what was being boy-splained though Grin

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whatnow41 · 02/07/2021 18:53

I always enjoy sitting back and watching the dick swinging contest at work when men start talking to each other. Maybe mansplaining and dick swinging are just parts of the same thing? Hmm

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PieceOfString · 02/07/2021 18:53

@dudsville

I watch my partner with his friends, they take turns mansplaining to one another. That's the bulk of their dialogue. I think this is the expected response, to mansplain back. I do it sometimes. I don't like it, it's like a little power battle and that's not what I'm into, but I'll do it with some men.

Interesting! I'll have to try to notice if this is a typical thing. It could account for a lot!
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thenightsky · 02/07/2021 18:54

@dudsville

I watch my partner with his friends, they take turns mansplaining to one another. That's the bulk of their dialogue. I think this is the expected response, to mansplain back. I do it sometimes. I don't like it, it's like a little power battle and that's not what I'm into, but I'll do it with some men.

I wish I'd read this advice a week or so ago. I got mansplained how a clitoris works and how it has a hood over it, meaning its harder to have an orgasm. My jaw was on my lap at the ridiculousness of the situation. Twat just keep on and on, while looking at my open mouth, thinking he was telling me something I didn't know about the female anatomy.
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BunnyRuddington · 02/07/2021 18:58

I wish I'd read this advice a week or so ago. I got mansplained how a clitoris works and how it has a hood over it, meaning its harder to have an orgasm. My jaw was on my lap at the ridiculousness of the situation. Twat just keep on and on, while looking at my open mouth, thinking he was telling me something I didn't know about the female anatomy.

Perhaps he's never seen one and had read up. I take it that he didn't get a second date? Grin

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StillCalmX · 02/07/2021 19:01

I feel like you forgot that I just told you my family has been in farming for hundreds of years?! Did you! Did you forget that I said that?

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 02/07/2021 19:01

Every day's a school day....men do this to each other? Mind. Blown. A man needs to explain a clitoris to a woman? Ye Gods. Shock

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thenightsky · 02/07/2021 19:04

@BunnyRuddington

I wish I'd read this advice a week or so ago. I got mansplained how a clitoris works and how it has a hood over it, meaning its harder to have an orgasm. My jaw was on my lap at the ridiculousness of the situation. Twat just keep on and on, while looking at my open mouth, thinking he was telling me something I didn't know about the female anatomy.

Perhaps he's never seen one and had read up. I take it that he didn't get a second date? Grin

Oh he wasn't a date. He's an old friend who is actually 73 and been married twice. I'm keeping him at arm's length from now on though.
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SometimesIFeedTheSparrows · 02/07/2021 19:05

@SpongeBobJudgeyPants

Every day's a school day....men do this to each other? Mind. Blown. A man needs to explain a clitoris to a woman? Ye Gods. Shock

That's the whole purpose of Rotary, as far as I can tell Grin
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BunnyRuddington · 02/07/2021 19:06

I'm keeping him at arm's length from now on though. I would be too.

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TheWeeDonkey · 02/07/2021 19:10

thenightsky I think you just won the thread.

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Pikachusbutt · 02/07/2021 19:13

@whatnow41

I always enjoy sitting back and watching the dick swinging contest at work when men start talking to each other. Maybe mansplaining and dick swinging are just parts of the same thing? Hmm

Oh god, we definitely have dick swinging in my work. It's just bloody embarrassing when they all start up on meetings.
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thenightsky · 02/07/2021 19:23

It's just bloody embarrassing when they all start up on meetings.

I'm retired and DH is working from home. I listen to him on Teams and cringe for him.

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OneMoreForExtra · 02/07/2021 19:37

DH: the charges against those two soldiers have been dropped
Me: yes I saw
DH: and Labour won the by-election
Me: I know
DH: and Switzerland play Spain this evening
Me: it's almost like we have the same News app

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Arbadacarba · 02/07/2021 19:40

My husband reads a paper newspaper, whereas I tend to read the news online.

He excitedly announces the morning's headlines ... which I read online 18 hours ago. I just nod along.

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elQuintoConyo · 02/07/2021 19:50

Two men mansplaining to each other is called a podcast.

"Please stop explaining things that I already know, thank you" then change the subject or move away.

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 02/07/2021 20:07

Podcast! Yes. I need to get over the being socialised to be nice and to smile and nod don't I? I think I just sat there in disbelief, that he could possibly think he could out-farm me, with absolutely not experience of it, other than watching Yorkshire Farmer, apparently.

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QuentinBunbury · 02/07/2021 20:12

Yeah i am starting to wonder if mansplaining is in fact just how some men talk....to everyone.....
Dick swinging is hilarious, also at work I see men behaving in a way that reminds me of dogs sniffing each others bums. Kind of a standoffish swagger. Plus masculine body language where they push their pelvis forward makes me laugh too. I can't imagine the female equivalent. Pointing at the nipples maybe? Grin

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Sometimesonly · 02/07/2021 20:18

At least your dh doesn't do it. Mine mansplained (wrongly) the topic of my PhD (totally not his field).When I said he was wrong and asked where he had read that, he said that was just what he thought. Confused

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 02/07/2021 20:18

I call it willy waving, rather than dick swinging. The female equivalent, though quite rare is titty waving, by progression :)

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Modestandatinybitsexy · 02/07/2021 20:24

@SpongeBobJudgeyPants

I call it willy waving, rather than dick swinging. The female equivalent, though quite rare is titty waving, by progression :)

Not boob bopping or tit tryst? Grin
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EdgeOfACoin · 02/07/2021 21:05

@dudsville

I watch my partner with his friends, they take turns mansplaining to one another. That's the bulk of their dialogue. I think this is the expected response, to mansplain back. I do it sometimes. I don't like it, it's like a little power battle and that's not what I'm into, but I'll do it with some men.

I think there is some research somewhere that shows this is how men generally communicate with each other. It comes across differently when they communicate with women, as women tend to have a different communication style. Obviously, I generalise.

I wish I could remember where I read about this.
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