how much do you tell people about your problem?

[ByThePowerOfGreyskull]

you see the thing is a while ago a friend asked me to do something and I said no it would make me too anxious as I suffer with anxiety, the conversation continued a little and I said for her not to worry I had some mental health problems that it was linked to and that I was recieving professional help.

so now, things still aren't great but day to day life has continued and our youngest DSs have now become friends as well as the older ones, and there is a suggestion that the little ones should get together after playgroup on alternating weeks (swtiching who is looking after them)

Her Dh is a psychiatrist a dn I am really trying to work out whether to say more to make sure they know that if I am going to harm anyone (which is not a current plan) it would be me and not any child. and that their ds is perfectly safe here.

It makes me nervous when I speak to her DH because I feel like he can see into my soul and I find that very very uncomfortable.

[ByThePowerOfGreyskull]

the thing is I have said enough to indicate that the anxiety is part of the problem not the whole problem,

[ByThePowerOfGreyskull]

the latter, which is why I wonder about just letting him know what it is all about rather than leave it to their imagination?
but then what if they didn't have concerns and that gives them concerns

[MitchyInge]

has taken over a decade for me to be comfortable discussing my diagnosis and day to day reality of life with condition even with people am quite close to, and I still squirm or cry or feel shame or all of above

we are probably living in the best era so far in terms of stigma being broken down and volume of people interpreting their emotional life within a psychiatric framework - it is becoming normalised for good and ill, but for good in terms of explaining things to people. bad in terms of some people assuming diagnosis (bipolar) somehow not sound as real trend emerging of people wanting the diagnosis and self-diagnosing - even though have been hospitalised numerous times and had expert second, third opinions and regular upswings with only one actual severe depression. is really annoying when people dismiss or minimise impact of symptoms on life when have taken scary step of disclosure and have worked so hard to recognise and respond to those symptoms

obviously old adage about people who matter not minding and those who mind not mattering is true, not the same as not 'getting it' as real difference between those who seek to understand and those who think it is all a load of self-indulgent shit or excuse for odd behaviour

[ByThePowerOfGreyskull]

thanks ladies, sorry for delay have been out on school run.

will take time and see if it comes up.