Feeling so fed up with everything

[utterlyfedup]

I just need to get how I've been feeling out. I don't have anyone to talk to in RL about this. My dh has been working 7 days a week for the last 2 months. He's out before we get up and home for about 1.5hrs before the boy's go to bed. He's obviously very tired and does a very physical job. He plays with the boy's then helps me put them to bed. No housework ever gets done once the boy's are in bed. Therefore I have the responsibility of trying to get it all done in the day (not happening!) I have to cook all the meals and I have our 2 ds's all day every day apart from the 2 days I work. They go to nursery for those day's. They are 1 and 2 years old. I'm 10 wks pg with dc3, I've been sick and exhausted. Now I have a cold and am completly run down.

The house is quite honestly in a complete state. We almost have no clean clothes to wear. The bathroom and kitchen are looking pretty awful And I just can't find the energy in me to get on with it and sort it out. I can't cook nice meals, no energy/enthusiasm to do so, no time blah blah blah.

We're not getting out to groups etc, just can't face people at the moment. the boy's sleep at totally different times so it's almost impossible to get out at all. My family live abroad most of the time - I couldn't tell them anyway. My in-laws drive me mad and are really quite unhelpful anyway. My poor dc I really feel they're having it rough and I feel terribly guilty The tv is on far too much, and I'm on the computer whilst they play around me. i really need to snap out of this.

I spoke to dh this am before he left, saying that I really need him to be home on the weekends. It's not fair on the dc's, I don't care about having a bit of extra money, I don't want to be depressed. He said it's only going to be for another month or so How will I last that long? Sorry just need to tell someone, thanks for reading.

[darkandstormy]

Firstly, so sorry you are feeling like this.This situation of course is worse because you are pg and unwell.Not sure what your money situation is, but what about a cleaning business giving it a bit of a one off blast to enable you to get on top of things?If this not possible set 2 days for each room, 1 day for a chuck out the next to clean it.Use a timer to do 3x45 min sessions.Give the bathroom a bit of a blitz again allocate 30 mins. Then invest in some anti bacterial wipes to give it a daily flick over.With regards to meals everything with pasta tuna. mince etc plenty of fruit and yoghurts. I would not worry about children playing while you are on computer, as this is using their imagination etc, as long as they are in a safe environmen t of course.Buy yourself a daily treat for consumption for after doing your jobs.Most of all please remember this IS just a passing phase and things will improve.I also find some fab tunes on whilst doing the jobs helps good luck