My entire life is suddenly f*cked... why did i say i was ok?

[essbee]

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[misdee]

whats happened?

[katierocket]

oh shit, what's happened essbee?

[lunachic]

sorry to hear this essbee - dont know what to say sure some one with better advice will be along soon
why do you have to move -you never know you could end up somewhere better please dont be too downhearted-chin up girl x

[essbee]

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[lou33]

get looking at that place in farncombe essbee

[essbee]

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[essbee]

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[lunachic]

oh essbee im sorry
although you dont know me i did post on your thread last year and i was glad too see that you were on the up when i came back to mn after a long break
im a great believer in things happening for a reason-it must be such a harsh blow after everything that has happened but maybe its the only way you can truly make a fresh start and move on-sounds trite now but maybe in a few years time you ll know it was the best way and possibly wouldnt change it
hth a little and doesnt sound too c$*p

[Fio2]

moive further north?

[lunachic]

where do you live essbeee north or south ?
if you dont mind me asking

[katierocket]

essbee I don't know enough about the full situation but I don't understand this part:
"He wants to pay less maintenance and have a large share of the house and is now insiting as the savings were in his name only then they are his and he insisted he would 'lose' them if needed "

he can't just decide to give you what he wants, it doesn't work like that in divorce. Are you seeing a solicitor?

[MrsGordonRamsay]

Oh God honey, what does your solicitor say ??

Surely he is legally obliged to provide for you and the children ??

Sorry if I sound naieve [sp]

[essbee]

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[MrsGordonRamsay]

Lunachic

She lives in the Home Counties.

[lunachic]

i think you should see solicitor asap too

[katierocket]

bad idea I think essbee.

What is happening legally? do you have solicitor?

[Fio2]

why would you want to do that?

have you applied for legal aid at all? have you got a solicitor?

whatever happens you have got to sort it out

[essbee]

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[GeorginaA]

Just what you need

Consult a solicitor asap, hon. He can't "choose" what to pay as the whim takes him, neither can he "choose" what happens to the house without consulting you. You need to chat to the solicitor to work out your next step (and to call his bluff somewhat).

[GeorginaA]

Then you need to speak to whoever is covering for that solicitor at the practise.

[katierocket]

that doesn't sound right essbee, are you sure? did your solicitor tell you that?

[katierocket]

it is highly unlikely that any court would see you homeless, first priority is always to welfare of the child and to ensure the child has a home.

[essbee]

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[rickman]

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