DH's parents died last year within 10 months of eachother.
DH 'coped' by gambling on machines in the bookies- till I discovered how much he was spending and he agreed to surrender his bank cards as he still feels he wants to gamble.
today he came home at 7 having been sat in the crematorium carpark from 3 till 6- then in a layby outside the crematorium when they shut the gates at 6.
we've talked (its the FIRST time ever he has admitted how depressed he feels...) so that is definitely a step forward.
however, i asked him if this is the first time this has happened- and he admitted that when he has felt like this before, he has gone gambling
again a step forward- him admitting the reason to gamble.
so i guess, he is mega down cos his usual way of coping (gambling) has been taken away- and logic tells me that he needs another 'safe' coping mechanism.
however, when you reach rockbottom it is impossible to want to do anything.
somone on here kindly helped me out last week- and i have been looking into my 'co-dependancy'... and something that i decided last week was that i had to stop tiptoeing around him to prevent him reaching rockbottom- and within a week he has crashed.
not really looking for advice---as this is so complex...just needed to vent my thoughts to people who have 'walked the walk'
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GAMBLING as a COPING MECHANISM... How to cope when access to gambling has been stopped.
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MrsForgetful · 01/12/2009 20:37
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