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Narcissistic mother

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Stripycat23 Thu 15-Oct-09 10:49:53

Hi all, I'm new to MN and have only had a few posts. I've just discovered my mother is a narcissist. It's like a lightbulb has gone off and I suddenly realise WHY things were like they were. I was never physically abused - thankfully - but have so much negative memories, feelings and thoughts swimming round in my head as a result.

In the shock of it all I actually feel calm and centred, like it's the missing piece of the jigsaw. I don't hate my mother, if anything its added pity. I understand now. But does anyone have any advice on how to let go of all these negative memories and feelings? I know I need to do this for my own healing.

ByThePowerOfGreyskull Thu 15-Oct-09 21:28:37

Yes yesyes,,,, let me find you a link that someone sent me when I realised will be right back

ByThePowerOfGreyskull Thu 15-Oct-09 21:32:31

read this what do you think?

PlumBumMum Thu 15-Oct-09 21:37:09

I've been recomended (on mn) the toxic *parents *book I haven't plucked up the courage to get it yet, although I think I need to soon as I'm getting quite bitter

((Hijack Bythepowerofgreyskull you don't know me but I have admired your cakes, I have just finished one for my SIL would love your opinion, photo not great and can't get anymore on for some reason))

ByThePowerOfGreyskull Thu 15-Oct-09 21:41:59

you are very skilled, they are fantastic.. did you use a shoe kit or was it freehand?

PlumBumMum Thu 15-Oct-09 22:50:01

Sat one night and made up a template for myself, still needs abit of work, only my 6th cake so still learning, all chuffed you thought it was good

Stripycat23 Fri 16-Oct-09 11:50:02

Thanks guys, read the link. Ooo that's my mum. Think my problem is counteracting my negative thoughts with positive ones.

I'll get the toxic book too.

Dubbs Mon 19-Oct-09 11:16:33

This was fascinating reading, and so true! What on earth makes someone like that, I only hope I don't turn out the same with my children!

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