My daughter has just turned a year and 2 weeks ago I went to the doctor as i was feeling down. if I am truthful I have been down since i've had K. The doctor gae me anti-depressants. They also said I could talk to about my problems with someone if I wanted. I have not taken the tablets and my HV is going to come round later in the week to talk to me.
I don't feel down all the time.
I wanted a natural water birth and this did not happen.
My waters were broken, I had 3 bottles of gas and air, an epidural and then was taken to theater and given a spinal block and was told I was to have a c-section. In the end K was delivered by forceps after a failed vontuse. I had to be cut and also tore inside.
the thing I remember most is seeing 2 doctors inbetween my legs stiching me up.
I think tht this is my problem that I did not get the birth that I wanted.
I now have flashbacks of this advent when I have sex with my partner. I just see the 2 doctors stiching me up.
does anyone else have the same problem.
The Edinburgh test can only work, and the health professionals can only help you, if you are honest. The fact that you say you know how to score low on it tends to suggest that you're not telling your HV the truth, and if you don't then no-one can felt you fully. Depression could be part of the post-traumatic stree disorder, and your GP and HV can help you find the right form of treatment for it, but only if you're honest with them.
Don't put too much pressure on yourself, look after yourself first, and then the relationship and sex stuff will follow on. Your partner needs to be understanding, and he needs to know that it will take time to get over the traumatic birth. If you put too much pressure on yourself to "need" to feel better for the sake of your relationship then you'll just make things worse.
the counselling may be a option will talk to the HV later in the week and say what ha been suggested. thanks for the advice. this is my firt time on this site after it was recomended by a friend it's fab and it's so good to talk to other people.
beachbummum - I just wanted to say I can understand how you are feeling. I still can't write about my daughter's birth without crying, it was so frightening. She is similar age to your daughter, 13 months.
She was born in Portugal and I had a horrible induction, no pain relief, 23 stitches.
Have not had sex since the birth.
Anyway, just wanted to say I DO have the same problem and you are not alone. Please let us know what HV said. Good luck.
hope you had a good weekend i went shopping on Saturday to buy some new underware and clothes. i never had a problem with this before i was pregnnt but found it hard to find anything that i liked. reason, to revealing, too old, don't like.
mmm,does sound a touch of the PND. Best not left luvvy. Good that HV coming this week. Take as much counselling as you need (normally only offer 6 wks worth) I found what I thought caused the PND wasnt at all. Talk about a bag of new worms!!
Anyway delivery definatley needs discussing. (similar experience)took me 2 years to get out of the mess. Still all over for me now.
**sprinkle** of angel dust to help you on your way.