why do i feel so negative now about having a baby(now 8 1/2 months old) can you fathom it?!!!.....
also have a DD 7.3 yrs.not sure how long i've felt like this ,maybe weeks now,but i'm so fed up with looking after him,just want to run away,want him to shut up whining,want some sort of quality time with DD(never hardly get),some quality time as a foursome(thought that was part of the deal,but family always seems split),want more 'me' time(have literally made the kids 24/7 for a while now).Am sooo tired hate the relentlessness of it all.thought a 2nd child would be more fun,my last chance to enjoy having a baby,would be someone for DD(she's glad he's here but gets frustrated i haven't more time for her).I planned him for 3 years and was haunted until i got got pg,then felt peaceful.hated pg,but felt very complete/happy after the birth and for the first few months.very tied to him though through bf and slow cs recovery.he's now got ezcema which makes his care even more time consuming.yesterday only got about 1/2 hr with DD,and only because i sacrificed proper tea time.i love him loads,but recently have felt more annoyed by him and even shouted at him.sometimes wish i had old relaxed life back just with DD.at the moment get up just wanting it to instantly be the 'end of the day' again...don't want to face the day.so dissapointed and upset my mood has turned like this,started off wanting to cherish every moment,knowing he was my last baby and knowing they grow up quick.
it might be because he's very unreliable with daytime naps(if any sometimes??!!),so never get any peace/time to do things...doesn't play for long on his own.sometimes sleeps through,but other times still wakes up for a night feed.know he doesn't need it,but tried to settle him without and he doesn't accept that.also SOOO
hate dividing my time between them than i thought i would (well he takes it all just now).mostly want to look forward to each day instead of dread it.i have some family support so feel more guilty that i feel this way,although feel very 'indispensible' myself especially due to the bf,but just can't give up...fought so hard to do it and it may stop his ezcema going through the roof.his ezcema is getting worse though and steroids keep improving it only for it to come back the day after each course...maybe it's all the anxiety about his skin or maybe i've tried to be the perfect parent for too long and burnt myself out??!!i research things about kids/skin/foods etc on web at night and don't give myself me time anymore,house constantly a tip and gets to me cause i haven't time to do it with his demanding/clingy ways.anxious about what foods to wean him on to,cause don't want to make his skin worse.different gp's not being very helpful,just prescribing more creams.
sorry such a long rant...thanks for listening...anybody like me? any advice?i know others in worse situations so i've no right to moan really.felt depressed on and off for a few years though then much better since his birth until recently.not told gp about it/no meds.neglected myself so that doesnt help.anyone else with a large age gap between kids and get down...thought it would be easier
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happyathome · 21/09/2009 10:52
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