I can,t go on like this as I feel as though I am going crazy and I know that I can,t continue like this for the rest of my life.
I started ttc over 2 years ago and was eventually diagnosed with premature menopasue at the age of 37 and a very slim chance of pregnancy.
Despite this I have continued ttc but its not happening and I know that now I am 39 years of age that any chance of a 2nd dc has just fittled away completely.
I can,t get over it and the despair, desperation, I feel is overwhelming me each and every waking minute of my day.
I knew that there was early menopasue in the family and I didn,t push enough for my dp to agree to another dc as he wasn,t keen and now this is the situation I find myself in.
I also hadn,t realsied how painful it may be if I didn,t have another dc and the hurt from finding out about hopeless hormone levels that sort of thing.
My feelings are so bottled up and I feel as though I have nobody to share them with.
I just can,t believe I let it get to this, I blame myself for not ttc earlier, now I will never have the chance of a daughter and my ds who is aged 6 will never have a sibling.
I wasn,t ready for this to see the end of my childbearing years.
I can,t even bear the sight of a pregnant woman or babies, I can,t even watch adverts on telly advertising baby products.
I keep thinking back to my lost fertile years where I could have had the family I really wanted.
I am crying about it every day.
I have been to one counselling session but I don,t think they knew what to say to me.
I would have thought a year after my diagnossis I would have started to accept and move on but I don,t seem to be able to.
I just can,t believe I will never experience a pregnancy again and have another child to cherish.
What am I going to do I am so desperate to scream out at family that I need someone to talk to about this but I have been putting on a brave face and I am sure everyone thinks that I am okay.
I know that I am lucky to have my ds and that some women don,t even have one but it doesn,t seem to bring me much consulation.
I am just exisitng along with this hanging over me day in and day out and still I keep imagining that I may have fallen pregnant.
I really need some help I am fearful of carrying this around for ever.
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I am destroying myself with guilt and despair over a hopeless situation
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celly · 17/09/2009 21:32
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