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What to do about suicide threat.......?

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nikki1978 Wed 05-Aug-09 17:10:46

My DHs business partner has just come round to say he wants out of the business as he is going to kill himself. DH tried to find out what the problem was and see what he could do to help but he clammed up and would not say anything. He asked what he needed to do to resign as director and told DH to send him an email with all this info. DH talked to him for a while but he was adamant that this is what he wants and he did not want to discuss it. He has just left.

Now a little background here - he is 24, a geeky type who has never had a girlfriend and who knows most of hsi friends through internet forums (he meets up with some of them so not just online). He is a nice guy but clearly very down on himself.

About 18 months ago he went AWOL and said he was going to kill himself during a huge project they had. They lost this contract due to him losing the plot and DH went mad. Obviously he didn't kill himself and after much talking and promising this would never happen again DH said he would give him another chance. Everything has been fine up until now. An old friend of his says he has done this in the past.

DH is now of the opinion that nothing is going to happen and we should just leave him to his own devices. I say we need to intervene but am not sure what to do. DH said to him earlier "what happens if I ring your mum and tell her" and he said he would just bullshit her like he has in the past. His Dad is battling cancer at the moment so I am loathe to call his mum unless it is completely necessary.


giraffesCantCatchSwineFlu Wed 05-Aug-09 17:11:29

You phone the police.

StinkyFart Wed 05-Aug-09 17:12:07

Ring the police, honestly you need to get him help and then let the professionals deal with the situation - it's beyond you to help him

FabBakerGirlIsBack Wed 05-Aug-09 17:51:20

I think your DH needs to take the threat seriously and if he doesn't feel able to support him you need to phone the man's mother. How do you think she would feel if he did kill himself and she found out you knew?

MitchyInge Wed 05-Aug-09 17:54:09

he's in v high risk group for suicide simply by virtue of being a young man - I would tell everyone concerned and possibly even send an ambulance to his house if he is there

for his mum the stress of a suicidal son will be nothing compared to losing a son through suicide

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