DSs are going away to Spain with DH for a week without me -- because I've been feeling so fraught and low and bad tempered with them that I didn't feel able to give the boys a good summer for six weeks without my first few days alone since motherhood began. I plan to make the remaining five weeks really good for thm when they get back, but for now I just feel a bit broken.
I feel really guilty at leaving them. And I keep picturing something awful happening to my younger son (10yo). I can hardly type it.. but it is drowning. I keep picturing him realising he is in danger, trying to put it right; I imagine himworrying that he has made a mistake, that it is his fault, that I would be angry with him for putting himself in danger. I have even (shamefully) said something gnomic to him like 'It wouldn't be your fault if anything bad happened; I wouldn't be angry just sad' -- to try to make him feel less awful in that awful moment that I keep imagining. It goes roundd in my head.
Is it so bad, selfish, to have this time alone? I am planning, hoping, to be a better parent for the rest of the holiday and will be taking the chldren away without DH for partof that time. DH will be working most of holidays and I will be the carer then.
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Horrible imaginings of bad things happening to my son. Guilt?
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Threadworm2 · 24/07/2009 18:16
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